OMG- Sorry if this is long, but Ill make it short as possible.
My parents and I don't speak, we havent for nearly 6 years. They did some truly unspeakable things, and are really messed up on drugs. I have forgiven them, but have decided not to have them as part of my life because that is what I feel is in the best of interest of my 10 year old son.
My cousin/dads niece, is actually 2 years older than my dad so she was more like the cool aunt growing up. Because her and my dad were so close in age they were more like brother and sister and have been close, as in very good friends all my life. I loved doing stuff with her and we were pretty close too. She has messaged me numerous times trying to get me to reconcile with my parents, and despite the fact I have explained every last detail to her, she still says we should make up before my wedding.
About 6 months ago she started messaging me just talking about the wedding and we messaged for a few days. Then, she offered that I could get all the flowers I wanted for free from her fathers greenhouse (he owns a large greenhouse where he sells bulk flowers).... THEN threw in the disclaimer that was only if I invited my parents to the wedding. I told her thanks but no.
Weve talked a few times since then but haven't talked since May 12th, then this morning I get this message.
I never once implied or told her I was inviting her. I had considered it until she started being so determined that my parents be invited. I was afraid she would tell them where the wedding was and that they would just show up (& that is totally something they would do, and would cause a scene. Like a huge one, cursing, screaming, name calling, etc).
Now, im afraid if she was invited she would bring my parents. And idk what to even do about this message.
It has taken me years of counseling and working on myself to finally be ok with the way things are between my parents and me.
And, when I say there is NO WAY my parents are being invited, I mean that. The things they did are so hurtful and hateful that its embarrassing to even discuss it.
So, now, Im wondering, do I lie to her? Ignore her? Or tell her the truth, that I really would like to invite her but Im afraid to because I cannot trust her to either tell my parents the wedding location or bring them with her.
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