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Anna
Super November 2017

What about the officiant?

Anna, on May 10, 2017 at 2:02 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 22

Our officiant is a nondenominational pastor, he's been paid, but we don't know him personally. We've discussed the details and vows. I was going through the guest list and potential seating chart- and we came to some questions: Does he get a STD? An official invite? A rehearsal dinner invite? A...

Our officiant is a nondenominational pastor, he's been paid, but we don't know him personally. We've discussed the details and vows. I was going through the guest list and potential seating chart- and we came to some questions: Does he get a STD? An official invite? A rehearsal dinner invite? A boutonniere? Do we invite his wife? Does he get a tip? A Thank You Card? What do you think?

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I believe I said that the invite serves more of a purpose than inviting me to a wedding which I will clearly be showing up for.

    Treating human beings as human beings, not vendors or guests, goes a long way in the relationship that you'll be in for some months. And if you feel like you're paying an 'obscene' amount of money, maybe you made the wrong choice.

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  • Anna
    Super November 2017
    Anna ·
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    Well, I love my officiant. He's the sweetest and I want him to officiate, but I also want him as a guest. He's doing pre-marital counseling with us, and his wife keeps offering to help with decorating or with anything.

    ETA: He's kinda like our wedding grandfather, I guess you could say. I want to make sure he's taken care of.

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