I specifically invited my fiancé’s cousin....just my fiancé’s cousin. Not a plus one. Nowhere did it say “and guest”. Even the inner envelope was just marked “Denise”. Well, she sends back her yes...for 2 people!! My fiancé refuses to tell her she can’t bring someone. Oh Lord have mercy....the...
I specifically invited my fiancé’s cousin....just my fiancé’s cousin. Not a plus one. Nowhere did it say “and guest”. Even the inner envelope was just marked “Denise”. Well, she sends back her yes...for 2 people!! My fiancé refuses to tell her she can’t bring someone. Oh Lord have mercy....the rsvp’s have only JUST started coming in too.
Girl I am not excited for this part at all... Ive only asked his parents to give me a guest list since November and this past weekend we sat down and said We Need a list so we can start planning the rest! like how many people are coming....... and Ive been with my FH for 11 years... Half the names listed my eyes got big like who are these people! My FH said his dads cousins...okay but why have they not been around the 11 years ive been!?! Im not excited to deal with this step when time comes.
My moms list was 23. My dads was 36. His moms is 65 and his dad is No freakin idea because to he just spits random names out and i just keep writing them down...like No Give me a list with names... Well do you need the address..Nope because when save the dates come out im giving you the stack and your in charge dealing with addresses because i dont know any of these people.... i really wanted a small wedding and we are at 230....SMH
I agree with Kathryn that we weren't taught how much of an imposition this can be growing up - in fact, we were taught the opposite! Remember how many movies and shows featured the plot line of "I got invited to a wedding and can't go alone! So I find a random guy and take him with me! We end up falling in love!"? Yeah... I didn't know until I started planning that the protagonist of such plot lines is just plain rude. And when my younger sibling, six months out, announced they were looking for an SO in time for the wedding, I had to break down the realities of how I have to pay for their meal and alcohol and I don't really want to if they are basically just together so my sibling doesn't have to be alone.
Additionally, it is actually really awkward to sit next to someone you've been with for like a month or three and watch two people promise their life to each other. You know that, the whole time, both people in this fragile new relationship are just wondering if it will last, and then awkwardly not talking about that. It's not just rude to the hosts of the wedding, but that kind of emotional stress can be rude to your new SO... But again, no one ever told us!!
We decided on a (loose) rule of, if they have been dating less than a year, do not add the SO as a plus one.