Weekday Wedding

Weekdays are cheaper, yes. I think Friday's, while potentially inconvenient for some or most of your guests, are generally acceptable. Here's my unpopular opinion though: I cannot get behind the "Thursdays are the new Saturdays" thing. No to Thursday weddings. No to Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday weddings. Sundays, OK, but only if the Monday is a holiday.

While you can get the venue at a cheaper price you may be looking at less people being able to attend or staying the whole evening BUT I think its fine.

I think depending on how small and how close you are to the people you're inviting to the wedding, a weekday *might* work. Are we talking about courthouse and restaurant with 20 people? If so, I think it's doable.

As far as the vow renewal next year, why not save money during the year and have it on a weekend?

I personally would have a hard time getting to a weekday wedding, and might not go unless it was a super close family member or best friend.

We are getting married on Wednesday.

To be honest with you, nobody is going to be happy about coming to a Wednesday or a Thursday wedding. Very, very likely you will get mostly no RSVPs for anything that isn't a Friday/Saturday/Sunday.

I'm getting married on a Monday, but it's a destination wedding and people who choose to attend will be taking time off no matter what day we chose (and I am appreciative of that fact). I'm also expecting lower attendance. So just don't be upset if you pick a weekday and people can't make it.

I think it's fine. Just expect people to say no or not stay very late.

I can only see having a wedding monday-thursday if it is a destination...since people will be taking off anyway

Sorry. Thursday IS the new Saturday. And none of our Thursday weddings have been wildly down in RSVP's than any other day.

@Sabrina - You are also making your guests drive 4.5 hours and having a cash bar. Nope!

OP - If it's just close friends and family the first time around, I wouldn't mind a weekday if I didn't have to take the day off, but why not just go to the courthouse over the weekend? If you're saving up for a year, I would try to avoid having the bigger wedding on a Thursday. You're going to get a lot of declines. Friday is better, Saturday is best.

As everyone argued and complained over in the last post I made that has changed, we are going to do a buffet and change the bar. That has already been discussed. The drive is happening however.

Unless it was someone I was super close to or the wedding was very close to me, I doubt I would attend. I don't get paid time off and I work every weekday. Weekday weddings are a huge pain in the butt for me. I've attended two Friday destination weddings that required me to take a total of 5 days off of work (due to either me or H being in the wedding parties of very close friends), so I missed a full week's worth of pay for these weddings, not including all the other expenses that go with attending a destination wedding. I find that weekday weddings, while cheaper for the bride and groom, shift the cost to the attendees and tend to inconvenience a large portion of the guests. Not a fan.

I'm getting married on a Thursday but it's a small destination wedding for some. We checked with VIPs to make sure it wouldn't be an issue. Also, we didn't get any sort of discount from any of our vendors for having it on a Thursday.

I've been to a Thursday wedding and it literally had like 15 people and that included the bridal party

Hmmm....maybe weddings SHOULD only be the people who are very close to you. Just a thought.

Friday's would be fine for me but I wouldn't do any other weekday. Guests may not be able to attend, or enjoy the alcohol ect if they have to work the next day or worse just got out of work lol

If that's what you want to do, that's fine. I would prepare for a lot of declines though.

With the Wednesday wedding it would be only immediate family, which is large to begin with and friends, we both have very few close friends that we'd want to share the special moment with, and we don't expect people to stay long after, just for dinner, and it would be local to our families. For the Thursday one it would be an extended guest list but we don't mind if it's, again, just our immediate family and friends. The extended guest list is just to make our families happy that we invited who they wanted. This would be as local as possible too so that guests wouldn't have to deal with LA traffic.

Thank you for the input!

My personal opinion is that if you're not expecting a big party and want it to be more intimate with those who are actually close to you then they will be there no matter when you have it if they can. But to be considerate about the distance and if it's far think of how you can accommodate them to make it a little easier if possible.

Ultimately in the end it's about you and the one you love being together, with or without the people.

LOL @"no one is coming to your Wednesday/Thursday wedding" and "no to Thursday weddings".

Where's the Thursday bride from NJ who had an 85% acceptance rate?

Really surprised at that statement from you @A.L. (although maybe I shouldn't because I find you to have a pessimistic attitude about EVERYTHING) being that you're from NYC, you should know we party on any day of the week. Well, at least those of us who have a social life...............

OP: if you couldn't tell by my snarky comments, I'm a Thursday bride - the Thursday before Memorial Day weekend to be exact. While we expect a lower attendance rate than if we had it on a Saturday or Sunday day, we are prepared for it. We had a choice to either push the wedding date out another year (and at 40 years old trying to conceive after marriage, I didn't feel like it) or to cut the guest list severely. We weren't having any of that. So to make up for that, we're hosting our guests properly so for guests like my CT fam that would be traveling 2 hours, or the family from FL or SC, they'll have tons of food, an open bar, an amazing DJ and a hotel that is literally steps away from the venue so everyone has the option to stay over.

If it sounds like I'm bragging - I am, because tbh I'm kind of sick and tired of the weekday wedding backlash. People act like everyone in the world only works Monday-Friday. Guess what? They don't.

Look, make it worthwhile for your guests that choose to come and don't get mad when someone tells you they can't due to the day of the week.

Thursday wedding over here. It works for us and our guest, and you can't knock the savings.