Weekday Wedding

I would disagree with this. My aunt had this philosophy for my cousin's Thursday wedding but some people just can't get off work. It was also out of town for us so anyone who wanted to go would have to miss Thursday and Friday of work. It really just depends. I definitely think you will have less attendance mid-week.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the input! We’re already planning on having a small, pretty budget friendly wedding. All of my out of town family members are self employed, so it’s a lot easier for them to come up whenever they please. I probably should have said that for more context ☺️

To say that anyone who wants to be there will be there really depends on your guests. If it was an out of town wedding in the middle of September, we couldn’t make that work. That would be a minimum of 3 days PTO for FH and figuring out a plan so my daughter didn’t have to miss school so early in the school year. If it was local, we’d probably make it work but if it was an evening wedding we’d likely leave by 10.

It’s not fair to say anyone who wants to be there will make it work. There are some people who won’t be able to make a weekday wedding work for numerous reasons despite badly wanting to come. As long as you’re okay with some people declining then you can have your wedding whenever.

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View Quoted Comment All of the people who are important to us will be able to be there no matter what, if some of my cousins I hardly talk to don’t turn up, I won’t be disappointed haha. Thank you for your advice 😊

Even though they are significantly cheaper, I couldn't bring myself to do a weekday wedding. I also would be pretty unlikely to attend one, due to having to take off work for traveling. Even though ours is on a Saturday, there's still a lot of people who told us all along they wouldn't miss it, and now they can't come. Life happens and people get busy, so I'm not sure the idea that "if they really want to be there they'll be there" always works.

This sounds great, but it’s not accurate. People have jobs, childcare requirements, kids sporting events, etc. No matter how bad I want to attend someone’s wedding, I’m not going to lose my job to do it. On the same note, if I’m invited to a Wednesday wedding, I’m going to assume the couple doesn’t care all that much whether or not their guests can attend, otherwise they wouldn’t have made it so inconvenient.

It is kind of inconvenient but I would still go even on a weekfay

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View Quoted Comment The thing is that we have already cleared it with the people who are most important to us to attend, so the others are people who may not even necessarily care to come but are invited if they would like to/are able 😊

View Quoted Comment Why did you ask for opinions if you already know that everyone you want there can attend? You say you’re worried not many people will turn up, then contradict yourself and say you don’t care if they can come. I’m confused?

If you have out of town guests, I'd expect them not to go. As long as it's in the evening, I'd expect people to go (some may be late) but I'd also expect them to leave at 8 or 9 since they work the next day. We have only been to one weekday wedding (Thursday), I was a bridesmaid and it was super inconvenient having to come in Wednesday for the rehearsal & dinner, so we both missed 3 full days of work. We were invited to a Friday wedding last year but skipped it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response! We have cleared it being a Weekday wedding with our out of town guests who are primarily my family, and we’re having gap hours between the ceremony and reception, so if some people want to skip out on the ceremony, I think that would be fine because I know all of the people I want there will be there 😊

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Agree with this. And also, I'm not sure you are being fair when you say "anyone who really wants to be there will be there" and "all of the people who are important to us will be able to be there no matter what". That's not really the case - there are most likely people who would LOVE to be there, but simply cannot get the day off or risk losing their job.

For instance, my cousin and his wife are completely devastated they can't come to my wedding - however, their baby is due 3 days before our wedding day and due to medical reasons, they have to have a c-section. It's not that they don't want to be there, and if I had your mentality of "all the people who are important to us will be able to be there no matter what", I would be the biggest Bridezilla ever. Try to understand other people have lives and responsibilities outside of your one day.

Depends what kind of wedding you want. Do you want a fun party with lots of dancing etc.? I don't think you will get that on a weekday. I think overall it will feel more casual, and end early. If that's cool with you then go for it!

I think you should evaluate the meaning behind the date and the people of your wedding. If the date is more important to you than everyone you love being there than go ahead and have it on that date, but if your family and friends are more important to be in attendance for you than the date, I would not do it on a Wednesday. I know a lot of people who will have a lot of trouble getting off of work for that day, and you also have to think that then they would have to take off of work for the travel time the Thursday after, and the wedding party would need to take time off on the day before so they could come to the rehearsal dinner. I know for me I would want more people to come than to have it on my anniversary date, but it depends on what you want more.

If you are already set on having it on a weekday and you already cleared the date with the people you care about I’m not quit sure what the question is? Sounds like you’ve made your decision already.

But you apparently don't care about those people individually, you just want them as bodies, since you say in the thread that you already know that everyone you care about attending is going to attend?

I was just asking for opinions, but I feel a little bit attacked. I was trying to start the conversation and I was nice replying to everyone I answered.