Wednesday wedding?

I didn’t have a weekday wedding, but here’s what I can tell you as a guest at weddings.

If its local to me, I would try to make it but I wouldn’t be able to stay late because the next day would be a school day for my kids.

If it’s out of town, unless you’re my best friend or immediate family, I’m probably declining because that would mean pulling my kids out of school for multiple days and my husband needing to take minimum 2-3 days off work.

Keep in mind too, that that’s right after a major Monday holiday and a lot of professions make that a blackout week for vacations.

As a guest I would have a very hard time making it to a Wednesday wedding and so would my FW. Unless you were immediate family or one of my extremely close friends, I honestly wouldn't make that much effort to attend. May 29 falls on a Friday in 2020, would that be an option for you?

I had a Thursday wedding, and we had a great turn out. Everyone stayed out on the dance floor, partying, until the lights came on. We had plenty of OOT and local guests who came to celebrate with us. (We also got married on my parents anniversary - but it wasn’t planned)

View Quoted Comment This is true... Plus pushing back a year would be extra time to save more money for the wedding!

We're having a Wednesday "family elopement", but it's in August with just our kids (who are either students or teachers and will be out of school) and my sisters (who are both retired). So, a mid-week destination wedding isn't an issue in terms of school or work.

However, a low-key dinner event on a Wednesday with a small group of family and friends should be doable. Maybe you could do the ceremony on Wednesday, then a larger reception on the weekend?

In any event, I love the idea of continuing the family tradition! May even be worth waiting one more year for the Friday?

You know, the secret to getting the wedding you want is in the planning. Will your crowd be able to attend a Wednesday wedding? If you plan something they can't attend you set yourself up for disappointment.

I can only attend your Wednesday wedding if you are local. I can't take 3 days off to go to a wedding. That's me.

If it is local I would be HAPPY to attend but I start work at 6:45 am so I would have to leave a bit early.

I think the sentiment in this so very sweet and (truly have goosebumps at the idea) I think if you postpone a year and let leap year do it's magic a Friday wedding might give you a much more robust attendance and what you are looking for.

So, are you going to display FIL' adn GPILs wedding pictures? That would be freaking adorable on your cake table.

It depends on what exactly you envision for your day. Is a large guest list important? Because that's probably not going to work. We're having an immediate family only elopement/destination wedding and in our case the package we got limited us to weekdays, so we're getting married on a Monday. As another PP said, you could do the ceremony on Wednesday and party on the weekend, but again, if it's important for more than your immediate family to see the actual vows, I'd probably hold out for that Friday in 2020.

My friend did that! Her wedding fell on a Saturday so she didn't face your dilemma, but she got married on the same anniversary date as both her parents and grandparents. They even had their wedding at the same University Club as her parents. They displayed pictures of her parents and grandparents wedding on the cake table (like PP suggested), and it was beautiful!

I'd wait till 2020 if this date is so important to you. Wednesday is probably the worst day to get married, especially the week after a long weekend. I feel like if you're planning on having a traditional reception with a DJ and an open bar, you're going to wind up wasting a lot of money because people won't be able to enjoy it as much if they're going to work the next day.

View Quoted Comment I love the idea for the pics on the cake table! I hadn't thought of that! Thank you!!!

View Quoted Comment It's going to be a dry wedding. And very small. I'm so conflicted about it now. 2020 seems so far away!

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Well if it's going to be dry anyway, do it whenever you want.

A dry wedding on a Wednesday, how fun!

I won't advice waiting another year. A year from the actual date is a lot. Talk to your guest and hopefully they make it.
I'm having my wedding on a Sunday and so far I have 95% rsvp rate and still counting.

View Quoted Comment A Sunday wedding is a lot different from a Wednesday wedding which is in the middle of the work week.

Op, I would attend if I were local, but probably wouldn't stay late.

View Quoted Comment You are right. A Sunday is prolly different from Wednesday.

You could always get married with immediate family in attendance on Wednesday and then have the big reception that Saturday for all of your friends to attend? That way your actual wedding date will still be the anniversary.

View Quoted Comment That is a great idea!

So for a little more detail, my wedding is going to be very small, no alcohol, and no out of town guests. I'm not big on crowds, I just want the most important people there. Plus my grandma is getting on up in years, and I want her to be there so badly. I'm afraid if I wait til 2020 she wont be able to attend.

View Quoted Comment All that matters is our family to be honest. I'm only planning on maybe 30 people max.

Well, so you are talking quite small and local, that puts a bit of a different light on things. If everyone is local start talking to them about your plans and see if you can't make that Wednesday thing work!