LadyHopkins
Super May 2012

Weddings too close together....

LadyHopkins, on August 19, 2013 at 11:19 AM Posted in Planning 0 17
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Has\Is anyone getting married on a day that is in close proximity to a close family member's. If so, how is it\did it work out. Any problems, jealousy, competition......

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Latest activity by Mrs♥F, on August 19, 2013 at 2:41 PM
  • Mrs.Rebeiro
    Master April 2014
    Mrs.Rebeiro ·
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    My wedding is 2 weeks before my cousins.. she was pissy about it but I figured oh well.. I chose my date for a specific reason and it had nothing to do with her so if she doesn't like it oh well.. Since then she has made her comments and made a few small details aggravating but I just let it all slide because her opinions really don't matter Smiley smile

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  • Mrs. Selland
    Expert August 2013
    Mrs. Selland ·
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    Our wedding is 2 week's before FH's brother's wedding. They have been together a long time and engaged a few years. We managed to throw together our wedding in 3.5 months. I talked to his brother's fiance and she was okay with us being married so close together. She said she was worried about families out of town choosing one or the other, but she said it all worked out. Our weddings are completely different, which to me is great. Ours is outdoors, laid back, picnic style, 2pm, wildflowers, etc... and theirs is at a golf course, dinner served, red roses, more formal, etc... It worked out okay for us. My FMIL however, has been frazzled and can't wait for this summer to be over haha.

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  • Kasey C.
    Super May 2016
    Kasey C. ·
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    We picked our date (three year dating anniversary) and most of FH's family knew about it, then a week or so later his cousin decided on their date. she picked 2 weeks right after ours.. so it's whatever. i'm just glad ours is first! and our themes aren't that similar.. thank goodness.

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  • LadyHopkins
    Super May 2012
    LadyHopkins ·
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    My sister and I got married 2 weeks apart and had absolutely no issues. I was even her wedding planner! Her wedding was an indoor, formal event in a ballroom. Mine was super casual, outdoor, park wedding. Her dress was white, mine was brown. Her bridesmaids dressed alike and I let mines choose whatever they wanted in red. Our family members actually enjoyed the differences of our weddings. (Mine was better, though, lol)

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  • Alexandra
    Dedicated August 2013
    Alexandra ·
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    My sis-in-law got married on August 17th. In July a major medical illness presented itself in my father and we were told that if we wanted him to be a part of our wedding that it needed to happen NOW. So we had to toss our wedding in between her surprise bridal shower and her wedding. We were wed on August 11. It probably stressed out a lot of my husband's family since they were also a part of her wedding but it all worked out just fine.

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  • Maria DiFiore
    Maria DiFiore ·
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    My boyfriends brother and sister got married 2 months within each other, it was very annoying because his sisters wedding was in Italy and we had to pay for our plane tckets and his brother ends up booking his wedding almost 2 months before hers. It was annoying because we had to also put extra money in their envelopes, pay for dresses and so on! It did all work out fine, but it was a little annoying and stressful prior to the actual weddings.

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  • mc4dj13
    Master November 2013
    mc4dj13 ·
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    We are getting married the beginning of November and my bro and sis in law are getting married 4 days before Christmas. My initial concern would be that his family wouldn't show up for ours because they would have to turn around and come back a month later for theirs. We were actually engaged after them and had our date set, but they kept being indecisive about when they wanted to get married. They were supposed to get married in August but moved it to December at the last minute.

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  • Oralia
    Devoted May 2014
    Oralia ·
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    My cousin and I are getting married on the same day. I was engaged first and I already had this date in mind. I even had my engagement party favors with the date. She got engaged on 5/16/12, two months after me and my engagement party was in April. When I spoke to her about it, she seemed to be bummed about it but explained why she chose that date and also said she wasn't going to change it. Oh well, have it your way. Her side of the family isn't getting invited to our wedding.

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  • LadyHopkins
    Super May 2012
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    Wow, Oralia, that was selfish of her!!!

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  • vngb
    Super October 2010
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    We got engaged in June and planned an October wedding for the following year. My SIL got engaged in November of the same year we got engaged, and planned the wedding for two months away in January (nine months to the day ahead of ours).

    Nine months - long time, right? Well, hubby's side of the family lives all across the country and doesn't make money to be able to afford lots of trips, plus buying dresses, renting tuxes, etc. In the end, they were able to afford to fly the immediate family out, leaving spouses and extended family behind. I felt bad for my hubby, but it turned out ok. We kept it small for both families and had just a few close friends join as well.

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  • HeWasHeavenSent
    Super September 2013
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    Thankfully we haven't run into this issue. My wedding day is also one of BM's birthday though. I asked her if she was okay with this and she was super excited about it. The good thing is that it's not a "milestone" birthday for her this year, so it all works out.

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  • Oralia
    Devoted May 2014
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    @LadyHopkins - at the time, I thought it pretty selfish of her and very inconsiderate seeing as she knew that I got engaged, she could have asked if I was thinking of a date. But, as a year has passed, and we're both 8 months away from the wedding, it doesn't bother me. I wish I could be there to support her and visa versa but cest la vie.

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  • Lindy13
    Super October 2013
    Lindy13 ·
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    We are getting married 3 weeks after my cousin...but she was ok with it. I asked her before we settled on a date

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  • Love113
    Super September 2015
    Love113 ·
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    My FH's best friend is getting married on the date we originally wanted, 5/17/14 (our 4th year dating anniversary) but they were engaged first so we had no choice & decided on 10/4/14. I was irritated by it at first but it's whatev.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    It was never a problem in my family. My father comes from a large family with lots of siblings. When all of their kids started hitting their mid-twenties, there was an epidemic of family weddings. Seriously, sometimes you'd have three weddings in one year, two the next, etc. (sometimes ceremonies at the same church, and receptions at the same venue). Then it all calmed down. It's starting again as all of those kids now have grown kids getting married. I've been to four of those weddings in the past two years. Actually, I can't wait for the next one.

    And honestly, nobody cared. No jealousy, no competition. Everyone was very respectful of another bride's wedding day. But then again, my family loves an excuse to party.

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  • Caferiend
    Savvy June 2014
    Caferiend ·
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    My best friend and I are getting married two weeks apart. We are both each others MOH as well.. sounds crazy I know! But we are having SO much fun planning together, scheduling showers and parties. I think it depends on the relationship you have with the person weather it will be stressful or not. Hang in there and try to stay positive and enjoy the journey!!

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  • Mrs♥F
    Super August 2013
    Mrs♥F ·
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    My wedding was one week before my cousins. And if was not a problem. It actually made it better for our families, because of it was the way I had it originally (3weeks before hers) half the family wouldn't be able to make either or. Which made some of the family not want to choose.

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