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KayDwitWill
Master May 2015

Wedding website wording for Registry

KayDwitWill, on January 28, 2014 at 9:26 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

I've seen all the posts on here about how many would hate to be asked for money. I understand that. FH and I don't want to create a registry list as we already live together and have everything we could possibly need for our home. We could use a few Lowe's and Home Depot gift cards to projects around the house but aren't pushing it. We also could care less if people gave gifts or not as we are inviting them to share our day with us. However, many people would want to give gifts and I want to ensure I put the correct wording out without sounding like I'm asking for money or anything else. So on the registry page of our wedding website I've put "No registry lists just any gifts from the heart or contributions to help us go on our honeymoon."

I figured this could forget the honeyfund sites that charge fees if people decide to give cash and if they don't want to give cash they can give whatever they like IF they want.

Do I sound wrong, right, crazy or confused?

14 Comments

Latest activity by Mrs Drakthal, on January 28, 2014 at 10:34 AM
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    Super November 2014
    annie ·
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    I just wouldn't say anything. Most people do what they want anyhow.

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  • NLeo
    VIP May 2014
    NLeo ·
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    I think that sounds fine. I don't get the difference between asking for gifts on a registry or asking for money anyway!

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    Mmm... no, it's still saying give me cash. I just wouldn't put anything.

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  • FutureMrsNoel
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    FutureMrsNoel ·
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    Honeyfund only charges if you chose the credit payment option. I created one but have cash and check only as payment option. I cant give advice on this simply because our family and friends want to contribute to the honeymoon. However this is a heated discussion on here and the opinions vary. Some say its fine to ask some say its rude. I feel it depends on your crowd. You know the people best and know if they would be okay with cash gifts. Do a very small registry and the honeyfund, lets people actually see a "gift" they are getting you.

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  • KayDwitWill
    Master May 2015
    KayDwitWill ·
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    After all the posts on this site about honeyfunds, I fought with myself about this particular page on my site. I guess I was trying to say "we don't want gifts but if you want to give one we want to go on a honeymoon" but it does still sound like asking for money. I just needed to bounce the idea off you guys before I release the site. Deleting that page I will do.

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  • FutureMrsNoel
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    FutureMrsNoel ·
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    Dont delete it if you feel your guest dont mind doing that. Somehow I got lucky and everyone has told us they want to contribute. Feel around and decide based on the type of people that will celebrate with you

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    Devoted June 2023
    Private User ·
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    Good for you to delete the page NewLife84! A very classy decision to not be rude to your guests.

    Also-for everyone who thinks their family and friends think HM registries are a "great idea" and "the want to fund our vacation", I bet a large percentage will say that to your (general YOU) face, then talk about how rude you (once again general YOU) are being behind your back. Just don't register, people aren't stupid.

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    HAHAHA! BEETLEJUICE BEETLEJUICE BEETLEJUICE!

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  • Ariel
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    Ariel ·
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    You could also just say something along the lines of "We have chosen not to register, as we have all that we need. The pleasure of your company is gift enough." That way, people know that if they want to gift you with something, it's either something they choose just for you, or money.

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  • KayDwitWill
    Master May 2015
    KayDwitWill ·
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    That's a good line Ariel. Thanks.

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  • Mrs Drakthal
    Master September 2013
    Mrs Drakthal ·
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    The Present of your Presence is all the Presents we could ask for!

    However if you insist we prefer a present from the heart!

    Choose something unique you wish us to have or come by and help us as we refurbish our house into a home! If you dont catch us there, we are probably at Lowes or Home Depot!

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
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    Choose something unique you wish *US* to have or come by and help us as we refurbish our house into a home! If you don't catch us there, we are probably at Lowes or Home Depot!

    I actually like what MrsD proposed. A lot. And I'd get the hint.

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  • KayDwitWill
    Master May 2015
    KayDwitWill ·
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    I hope it's ok if I steal you lines. I'm not good with things like that.

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  • Mrs Drakthal
    Master September 2013
    Mrs Drakthal ·
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    Yup that is why I posted them. And it is not stealing since I am saying take them!

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