Wedding Website = Uninvited Guests?

You can put a password on your website if that would help. I password protected our website and some people just contact me all the time to get the password again but it does cut down on unwanted website snoopers.

I was thinking about that, but they will have the password if we send them a STD. Hell, maybe we wont send those 2 Save the Dates LOL.

I'm sure those people would also see the save the dates and invitations on other people's refrigerators, right? Also I did my RSVPs through the website and you could only RSVP if you were on the list. I think if people are going to crash the party they would find a way to do it with or without your website.

Sigh unfortunately that is VERY true @Chrissy

Honestly, I think websites are highly overrated. Maybe don't even have one?

But I do agree with Chrissy.....

And let your families know, in no uncertain terms, that you're planning an intimate celebration, and you're honored that they'll be there. "We are unable to invite the entire family and village, so please be discreet with our information."

Since my wedding is pretty much a DW, I'm not too concerned. BUT, if you use WW for your website, you are able to password protect it. That way, only invited guests with the password can access it and view your wedding details!

@Celia - that line is perfection! lol Thanks. And you're right...I have seen a few ladies say they got very low traffic on their sites. Good point.

I would also very clearly on the invites mark "2 seats will be reserved in your honor". So there is no confusion at all. Maybe even go over it with your grandma and his family. Be blunt and say uninvited guests will have to leave and if you invite them, you're the asshole here.

@DMN - LMAO!!! Very well put.

The thing is, if your grandmother and his father are going to invite other people to the wedding, they will find a way to do it whether or not you have a website. I've heard of people sending photos of the invite to others. I would honestly just tell everyone what Celia said about not being able to invite the whole village. I would also tell your grandmother and his father that if there are unexpected guests that they will be turned away as there won't be a seat or food for them. If you want to do a website, I would just do it. Maybe go ahead and password protect it and only give the website info to those who won't invite others.

I completely understand. I'm worried about the same thing. My mother wants me to invite all the aunts, uncles and cousins. We both have large families, and mine is a 'blended family'. If I do that our guest list will be well over 300 people, and we've decided on a guest list of 66 people precisely (that's exactly the number our venue will hold). I'm planning on having a website, but mostly to direct people towards hotels in the area. over half our guests will be OOTs.

I agree, if they are going to invite others they will do it no matter what.

I'm actually a fan of websites. We have a big guest list and it has been a great way to get information to everyone. You have a smaller wedding so getting info out without a website is probably fairly easy.

If people crash your wedding, they will have nowhere to sit and nothing to eat. If you have family rude enough to invite uninvited guests and family rude enough to actually come, they will find a way to do it with or without the website.

I did not put my reception info on the website for this very reason. I do agree with everyone else though. A wedding website or lack thereof will not stop determined crashers from crashing. I would try to keep the details as private as possible.

This is always a tough issue, bc while your gma and his father shouldn't be inviting ppl you can't fault family for wanting family there, and you can't fault family for wanting to attend even if you dont think there "close" to you two. But regardless your best bet would be (with a year until the wedding) keep the plans as low key as possible. Not sharing venue, date, time info with anyone (including anyone who would tell you gma). Even if she doesn't direct them to the website should could always just tell them when & where.

People didn't even read our invitation enclosure with parking information/lodging information on it and parked all over the damn street, despite all of my parking directional signs. People just do whatever, regardless of a website or enclosure. ;-)

Show your grandma the list so she knows who is and is not invited. I'm not putting our reception address on the site- only the ceremony church location. For the reception I just said "Please refer to formal invitation for reception details". I'm paranoid and didn't want strangers snooping around

We didn't do a website. Honestly we only had 1 person ask if we had one. Most people it seems don't even look at them. Unless it's something you really want I don't think it's necessary to have one.

We had a website, and didn't have the problem of people crashing our wedding. The only "un-invited" guests were someone's 2 little girls...why my friend thought Mr. & Mrs. ______ meant "and family" is beyond me..

But I doubt they ate a full meal...the only issue was when I overheard our coordinator say there wasn't enough seats for table 4...umm.yeah there were..there was just 2 obnoxious kids that weren't exactly invited....

6 months later this still bugs me.....

This is why we're not doing save the dates. I talk to all the guests on my side of the list on a regular basis. There is no need for me to send formal correspondence to tell them our wedding date. As for the website, I only plan to send to people that will need it to reserve the hotel block. The website will not have any detailed information on locations until just before the wedding.