Wedding venting

Are you close with her family? Do you two normally do things together with them? It's your wedding as well so while I understand what you're saying I don't think there's anything wrong with being included especially when your family can't host a similar event for you. All of that kind of depends on your relationship with them and your dynamic as a couple during events with them.

So my mom also lives far away, and although I know we both would love to do more, I'm trying to plan something special we can do this year. And then have her come up a little early for the wedding next year. Since your wedding is in April, I'd suggest maybe start thinking of nice things you can do together when she's with you. Getting your nails done. Maybe having a special breakfast or dinner together. Putting together guest favors. Other fun, small, quality-time kind of items. That's the kind of stuff I'm planning on, and I think will still make it really special and nice.

It's really great how kind you've been to your fiance in all of this. And the above suggestions of joining in on the fun are great, but if you don't want to do that, then I think in those moments when you're feeling sad, try to remind yourself of the fun you have planned with your mom. It's not a perfect solution, but hopefully it will give you something joyous to look forward to. Being so far away from family definitely changes the ideas that you had painted in your mind, but that doesn't mean you can't create room for meaningful experiences that will still be beautiful memories. I hope you find a nice way to celebrate with your mom.