Wedding Talk

Exactly why you keep wedding stuff off of social media

Omg yes I understand I have tried to keep it under wraps but it got out of hand when I was tell a bridesmaids about the wedding and a co-worker assumed they were getting an invite so I played it off

I've kept most of my wedding stuff off social media and generally the only people I talk to about my wedding are those who are invited.

Most of my friends have forgotten or haven't realized I'm getting married. I am one I won't sent an invite unless I'm willing to go to their wedding.

I don't post anything wedding related on social media, that's why I have WW

I don't post much wedding related just engagement photos and I asked about reception locations in the area after not getting any responses on here lol. I didn't think those two little things would draw that much attention.

Ashley, yeah sometimes I have random questions about wedding related stuff, If I can't find an answer on WW I'll look under the vendor tabs, ask my recently married friends (who are invited to the wedding) or just use Google. I just don't want to post a question on my FB which I think opens the door for people to post things assuming they are invited. One of my FB friends posted her STD and there were so many comments of people asking when and where, she took it down a day later.

Yep keep wedding talk out of social media and away from the workplace.

I have this problem too! We've just said it's going to be family and close family friends only. It does get awkward and it's impossible for people to not know about it social media or not!

I had this problem!! And honestly it wasn't even from posting on social media! Someone found out I was engaged and said she just couldn't wait and I was like uhh so I just said "I'm gonna do my Best But we're keeping it really small, just family and friends we've not forever"

@Jessinlove that makes a lot of sense NOW lol. It's hard to come to terms that not everyone is as excited as me but at least I'm excited and not going into it for the wrong reasons. I only took to social media because I am beyond stressed now that we aren't doing a backyard wedding and I need to find a venue. It's hard to keep things off social media when I'm so excited but I definitely see why its best now. Thanks ladies!!

What do I do now? lol Im a waitress and its mostly girls who love to talk about weddings do I just say sorry can't talk about this? I don't want to give people the impression that I'm not excited but I also don't want to open doors to people who aren't on the list.

People are going to find out, social media or not, and you'll have the same problem. The only difference is that you denied yourself one more bit of joy by not being able to share the way you want to. People who invite themselves to your wedding, regardless of how they found out about it, are being very rude. Stick to the script and tell them that you have limited space/budget. They set themselves up for that by asking directly, when they KNOW they shouldn't.

Sorry, that's one of my pet peeves. But my whole business is social media, and if I can't live out loud online, I feel like I'm not being authentic.

Thanks Lynzleigh! I see a lot of couples posting about their wedding and i like following along even if Im not invited. I don't expect to go to every persons wedding I know especially with the outrageous costs these days. You are right about them being rude I agree. I definitely have the same problem with people who aren't even on social media lol. I also have people say "invite me Ill get you a nice gift!" if you have to ask to be invited then you probably aren't. I guess I just expected people to know what I know and not assume.

Reminds me, my brother posted my invite on snapchat. Cmon really Bro? I asked him to take it down and he did lol

No way.. lol I can totally see people doing this.. God forbid anyone posts an actual invitation

ETA omg @jessinlove I thought I read that he posted a save the date!! LOL an invite omg i would have died, go you for being a good sport!!

I have an unpopular opinion on this. You post on social media whatever you want. The idea of social media is just that: socializing sharing significant moments. When people post a baby announcement you don't assume you're the godmother. If people assume they are invited to your wedding because you posted an engagement picture then they're the ones with the issue. Unless you're posting save the date announcements or specific day of announcements (this is what the website is for) then no one on SM should assume an invitation. Please, let someone ask for one on one of my facebook posts. I'm so over the rudeness of self-inviting. I have 500 friends on facebook. Some of which I haven't spoken to since elementary. I LOVE seeing their success on facebook and following along with their relationship. I hope my friends do too (don't really care for those that don't) and I would hate to see all of the sharing stop because of a few individuals who lack manners...

Okay, my rant is over. I'm sorry, this topic really gets to me.

Nessa, we are very much on the same team, here. <3 I'm the most extroverted extrovert you'll ever meet, and I chronicle EVERYTHING on the ol' FB. I've accumulated 1500+ people since 2004, and obviously that's a little much for a guest list. But my love of crowdsourcing will keep me posting wedding stuff online as much as I damned well please (though WW is helping curb my cravings a little).

Ashley, you do you, boo. I'm glad we could make you feel justified in your posting, because you ARE.

Uh, it looks like the majority of my comment was deleted somehow. Oh well.

TL;DR - Facebook is awesome, post away!

When FH and I got engaged we posted it, and hadn't told some of our close friends and family, huge mistake.