Wedding Superstition/Tradition: The Night Before The Wedding

View Quoted Comment That makes sense why you are staying apart the night before! It'll be fun for you to get ready with your bridesmaids. And not doing a first look will make for a beautiful moment at the altar!

View Quoted Comment Definitely! The day goes by quick enough as it is, it'll be nice to spend a little extra time with everyone. My fiance is especially excited about the appetizers that we picked out for cocktail hour, so he definitely wanted to make sure we attend cocktail hour for that reason lol.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you, that sounds like a great idea!

We will be spending the night away from each other bc I want my photographer to capture the reaction of our first look/glance. Plus our wedding party is huge so the women will be together & the men will be together

View Quoted Comment Yes I am gonna do the first look

View Quoted Comment Yes and at this point why would a night apart be useful to either of you? It causes anxiety. You’re already together. This is just a ceremony to seal the deal. No need to run off.. those days are over.

We plan to spend the night before our wedding away from each other.

View Quoted Comment We are doing a first look too, and I'm so excited for it! I'm sure your photographer will capture some beautiful photos of that moment. Awesome that you'll both get to spend some quality time with your wedding party members!

View Quoted Comment Very cool!

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. Staying with him that night will help ease some of my nerves, and we've already been together for 8 years, so we didn't see the point in staying apart. Plus, it'd be the added cost of another hotel room.

View Quoted Comment Awesome that you're following the tradition! What other traditions are you incorporating into your wedding?

View Quoted Comment Having the ceremony in a church

View Quoted Comment Love it! Very traditional. It sounds like everything will turn out beautifully!

Definitely made arrangements to stay separate on our “last single night”

I want some traditions, my fiancé and i don’t live together either. I wanted to find a way to get around the “first look” too but all the expert photographers assure us that is the ONLY way to be able to “have it all,” family photos and attending cocktail hour. In this day and age when so many couples are paying for their own wedding/reception, somebody should really come up with a way to have it all!!! lol- if you think you’ve found a work around to have your cake AND eat it too, please I’m all ears

View Quoted Comment Awesome that you're following the tradition!

View Quoted Comment I totally agree! If anyone finds a way to get through all photos before the ceremony AND still be able to see each other for the first time that day during the walk down the aisle, I'd love to hear about it! One thing you could do that might be a happy medium is to get as many photos out of the way before the ceremony as possible, and then do the rest after the ceremony. So you could do photos with just your bridesmaids ahead of time, and your fiance can do photos with just his groomsmen ahead of time, and pretty much any other photos that don't require both of you to be in them. After the ceremony, you can take the photos of you both together, and leave enough time for you to go to at least half of cocktail hour.

View Quoted Comment Just a first dance together. Aside from that…we are doing away with most traditions…my father is not walking me down the aisle, no parents dance, no public cake cutting : )

View Quoted Comment That actually sounds very similar to what my fiance and I are doing! We are doing the cake cutting off to the side while everyone is socializing, my fiance and I will be walking down the aisle together, and we're also skipping the parent dances. I'm debating whether to skip the first dance too (I'm really not much of a dancer), but undecided at the moment.

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We debated whether or not we wanted to do a first dance too! This was mostly due to the fact that we were struggling to find a first dance song and the fact that my fiancé gets nervous dancing in front of others. I told him that I would be open to leaving out the first dance, but he was a bit more hesitant to let it go. We finally found a song, so we are moving forward with it. Years ago I went to a wedding of a friend and his husband - instead of a first dance, one of them played the piano and the other one sang. They were both in a chorus group in college, so that helped : )

You can also start to dance and then invite others to join in - this way you do not have to spend the entire time being looked at while you sway to the music. All in all...the day belongs to you and your fiancé so do whatever you feel most comfortable doing.