My fiancé and I got engaged in February. We decided to plan a long engagement, so we are getting married September 2016. Pretty far away until people started telling me that I need to plan soon. I didn't do much planning. My fiancé's mother is from brazil as well as his family so she needed me to pick a date to give the enough notice to come. So I felt rushed to pick a venue and put down my deposit but I did it. My fiancé just started a new job after being out of work for quite some time so he hasn't contributed anything to the wedding. His parents and my father also haven't so I have been the only one saving for this wedding. On top of that stress I have to plan it all on my own because he has no interest. I know, it is far away and no one is as excited as me, I feel like I am carrying everything on my shoulders. I recently asked my maid of honor to go to Ikea with me to look at lanterns. I have never seen someone so miserable for the 10 minutes we looked. I honestly feel defeated.