Wedding song drama

View Quoted Comment Hahaha you’re not wrong!! It is extremely popular.

This is completely ridiculous. There is no prize for being unique at a wedding. Use the song. Maybe she will grow up and act like an adult before she gets engaged. If anyone does remember you used it at your wedding, by the time hers comes around, unlikely, then they will probably think you two are sending each other a special message, like both of you used to sing along with it out driving around, or on the beach, and that it has special memories for you. Too bad you will remember it for your sister acting childish and selfish and completely unreasonable. You love it, use it. Imagine, you do not use it, to save the peace. And by the time she actually gets married, she has a new favorite, must use song.

View Quoted Comment This is my thought process as well. I feel like if I start making concessions now to accommodate other people’s neurotic behavior, it will never stop. I am sorry you imagined wearing a white dress on your wedding day, but I also purchased a white dress. I am sorry you love Beyoncé songs, but I am going to play her music at my reception. It will never stop.

I also forgot to add that I am having a New Orleans-style brass band second line parade immediately following the ceremony. I guarantee no one will remember my ceremony because none of my guests are from New Orleans. The second line will be a great novelty and my wedding march will be a distant memory.

View Quoted Comment "This feels like when people want to "reserve" baby names when they aren't pregnant (or even dating) yet! You can't lay claim like that! ". . . People are strange. The first time my husband's brother's wife heard my MIL talk about the kids we were in process of adopting, she called her brother, my husband, to tell him he could not give her the first name Pippa. Because she, newly married and not pregnant, wanted to name her first born daughter that. Hubby told her that she had the same first name since birth, and we had an open adoption, her father and mother (deceased) had family, especially one set of grandparents, and some aunts and uncles knew her as that, her 4 year old brother we we adopting knew it, and she at 2.5 knew, that is my name. And we were not changing it. His SIL had screaming fits about it over the phone, sent nasty letters, and stopped going to her MIL home for monthly Sunday dinners after MIL told her she was being an ass. We live 700 miles apart, her hypothetical daughter will be at least 8 and maybe 16 years younger, since her first 2 are sons, are of different races, and have different last names. Oh yeah, we sure are stepping on her dreams. And people will surely confuse one for the other at big family gatherings, which was her other argument. Like OP sister, she is so focused on herself, she cannot see beyond it to anything reasonable.

Use the song. She will get over it. My sister and I have always planned out our weddings even when we were young and we both wanted the same song for our father daughter dance. We just said whoever got down the aisle first got it. She got married 4 years ago now. I am now getting married and have changed my mind. People change, things change. Don't worry about it. Also, you are right, no one is going to remember!

Ask her who's wedding she went to last. Then ask what song the bride walked down the aisle to. I bet she won't remember. Case closed. Use the song if it will make you happy. (Congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals. It will be the best day ever!)