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Wedding song drama

User2574599655703, on May 22, 2019 at 8:24 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 26
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Today, I was talking to my sister, who is also my MOH, about the wedding. I told her I wanted to walk down the aisle to “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perry. This is literally one of the most popular wedding songs of all time. Thousands of brides have walked down the aisle to it. We personally know people who have walked down the aisle to it. The moment I told my sister, she freaked out and said I couldn’t use it because she had planned to use it for her wedding. My sister is not engaged. She accused me of knowing that she wanted to use that song for years (I most certainly did not) and said I was ruining her “dream.” I told her I was sorry, but I like the song and I am going to use it. When I tried to ask her WHY it meant so much to her, she just said she didn’t want her sibling using the song but she was fine with friends using it. I told her it is highly unlikely anyone will care what I walked down the aisle to and they won’t remember it if she decided to use it because her wedding isn’t happening anytime soon. I asked her how she is envisioning using it and she wants a string section to play it. I want it played on an acoustic guitar. I told her she can still use her version and it would be unique. We left it at her saying she wouldn’t tell me not to use it, but that she is disappointed she can’t use it now. Has anyone run into dealing with family and friends’ unspoken wedding fantasies while wedding planning? This is my first instance of wedding “drama” and we still have a ways to go.

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Latest activity by StaceyLovesIan, on May 28, 2019 at 5:04 PM
  • WinesandWhiskey
    Devoted September 2019
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    Um wow. I cant say I've had that but that is crazy that she thinks she owns such a popular wedding song. Sorry you're having that issue, but I personally dont see a reason you can't still use the song. Especially with it being a different version. Hang in there!
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  • Christina
    Dedicated July 2019
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    What the heck? That’s so strange! That song is so common in weddings, I’m using it for my wedding party to walk down the aisle. I definitely think you should still use the song, she’ll get over it.
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  • Chelsea W.
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    It’s your wedding - do what YOU want. It’s a very popular, beautiful song. I don’t think people will care (or remember) if she would have the same song as you when she gets married.
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  • C
    Devoted June 2019
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    She'll get over it. (And if she doesn't, she has bigger problems than you can solve.). Don't waste your time on the absurd - you have things to do.
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  • User2574599655703
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    Preach, sister!
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  • Hermione
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    How old is she?....

    If she is late teens - young 20s.... This sounds normal. Do your self a favor and don't share your wedding details with her. You're being normal but she is being her normal.

    It's kinda like someone complaining you're wearing a white dress to your wedding. They can wear a white dress to theirs and it will be special too...

    I am walking down to "At last" if you want an alternative to keep the peace. "All of me" was a second choice but I wanted a jazz feel. There are a lot of good song choices and you can tell her suck it up buttercup.
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    Hahha. People are so weird. I say use the song. That song could be sooooo over played by the time she is engaged or a new song will come out that becomes her "dream". She will get over it. Plus, even though you are family, I guarantee no one will remember what song you walked down to besides you and her. I have been to plenty of weddings and only remember the song my SIL walked down to because I was directly involved in wedding planning so it just sort of stuck with me(ironically it happens to be A Thousand Years). I was just a bridesmaid in another wedding 6 months ago, I couldn't tell you the song if my life depended on it.

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  • User2574599655703
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    Exactly my point. Literally no one cares about the song but me. I don’t even think my fiancé will notice.
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  • User2574599655703
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    She is 26 -___-
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  • Sarah
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    Really?! 🙄 I have two siblings and a best friend whose weddings I've been in over the past 6 years. And let me tell you something, I remember the songs that my sister played at her wedding (6 years ago) ONLY because she would not stop talking about them for at least a month before the wedding! I couldn't tell you what songs were playing for the wedding I was in 6 months ago. For your sister to think that she owns a song is stupid. I mean I get it, my sister is a few frys short of a few frys but, good luck planning your wedding how you imagined, music and all.
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  • Rachael
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    Oh my gosh that's something else. Like, not only is that song so popular (I'll be walking to a version of it too....lmao) but there are so many different renditions of it to choose from. And she's not even engaged.... sooo.... just wow.

    I haven't had first hand issues with people, but my FH's friend told us his (now) fiance screamed and threw her phone when she saw FH & I were engaged because "everyone is getting married but me". Safe to say we think she told him they were getting engaged, end-of-story.

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  • Hermione
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    Brains don't fully develop until 30 for most. Also she probably has a grand total of 6 years experience in most social adult matters.
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  • Terra
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    Once upon a time, I was the person throwing a future-wedding-fit. I was 14 when my sister was getting married, and she wanted to dance to Let Me Be Your Wings from Thumbelina and I was pissed. We got into a "that movie means more to me than you" argument where she accidentally called the Jitterbugs "Doodlebugs." I won when I called her out on it. It was such a pointless argument, bc even though as sisters we both adored that movie, neither of our grooms care about it in the slightest. 😂
    A Thousand Years is overwhelmingly popular. It has been since Twilight. Odds are, there could be a totally new overwhelmingly popular wedding song by the time hers comes around. She'll get over it eventually.
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  • Mandi
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    I'm pretty sure no one is going to remember what you or she walks down the aisle to.
    Also, no offense, but the number of discussions I've read that include "I'm walking down the aisle to A Thousand Years" is in the millions. This isnt unique to her or you.
    It sounds like she isnt getting married the week after you, she needs to chill.
    Maybe some other "oh so perfect" wedding song will be released between now and her wedding.
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  • Lenaya
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    Use the song lol she'll get over it!!!

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  • Heather
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    Your sister is being ridiculous !! She’s not even engaged. I want to walk down the aisle to an instrumental of the same exact song. It’s probably the most popular song for weddings. She’ll get over it.
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  • Mrs. S
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    A thousand years is the new canon in D. You should definitely still use it. She’ll get over it.
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  • NextChapterReady
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    Use the song! That's crazy selfish of her!!!

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  • Lynnie
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    I think you had a really great compromise of highlighting the different instrumental versions! Is she in a relationship? If she hasn't met her future spouse yet, her song choice could totally change!

    This feels like when people want to "reserve" baby names when they aren't pregnant (or even dating) yet! You can't lay claim like that! Smiley xd

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  • Courtney
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    She can get over it. My brother's fiancée told me I wasn't allowed to pick burgundy dresses because that's what she wants. Mind you my wedding is a year before theirs and I hadn't even considered bridesmaids dresses at this point. I said, "you can't call dibs on a color and we'll see what I choose".

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