wedding shower no shows

I can't contribute much in terms of suggestions, but just understanding and compassion. Unfortunately, the anger, upset, and frustration will not subside for quite a while--and the wedding is yet to come. The shower may a precursor to the wedding. All you can do is be thankful for those did show up, and give them extra "attention" at the wedding. For me, after being snubbed by more than half our invitees at both a co-ed bachelor/ette party and our wedding--we have opted to completely ignore those who blew us off. It seems as though such a big personal event can show who really cares and who are true friends. The cracks get revealed--and maybe need to be left behind.

This must be a problem with our culture! To be invited to a milestone event in someone's life then totally shit out on it is mind boggling to me and represents someone with NO CHARACTER. I'm not sure that i can handle the rejection when I send out my invitations.

I don't think it really had anything to do with the rsvp's. It was really crappy of them to not show. 1 couple out of 60? I'd be so upset for them, I don't know if I could not say anything, it's gotta hurt them...

Thats so sad. Careful because it will get really expensive if there are alot of no shows at the wedding

Jeez oh man. I think my fear of this kind of rejection is exactly why I don't want a shower.

I am fearful that these people will treat the wedding as rudely as they did the shower. I have yet to talk to my sis directly. I think she is avoiding me out of embarrassment right now, which is ridiculous because she did nothing wrong. I am hopeful that she is going to check and recheck with the people who no showed to verify their attendance to the wedding. Or I'd be more than happy to do it.

I thought because getting people to RSVP in the first place can be difficult, that listing it "regrets only" would make it easier for people. If you're coming, no need to call. Boy, did I learn my lesson. And like I said, some of these people mentioned being invited to my sis and that they'd see her at the shower and then never came. This party was well mentioned by my sis and future BIL to many of their friends. They knew the date was coming.

I want no wedding shower myself because of this experience. Doesn't matter that it would be a different set of people invited.

Wow I am so0o0 sorry that happened!

Ok this post truly hurt my heart. Wow...that is so sad that all those people didn't show. Did you put regrets only on the invites or to actually RSVP to the shower? Sometimes people don't understand that way or inviting them. Wow...I hope they don't pull that BS at the wedding too. That's the worse planning for all these people to "show up" and then they don't.

Actually I have a friend that had an "around the clock" shower and a lot of people didn't understand the concept so they didn't come...it was sad too...

How awful, I can't even imagine how your sister felt!

Unfortunately, that comes to show that no matter how many do RSVP, not everyone will show up (damn it!!).

You must have used the old 'regrets only' response system. it never works correctly. you have to ask each and every guest to respond, whether it's yes or no. that helps people to remember they spoke to you about X date and they will be more apt to mark it down I think. just because you didn't hear from 60 people, you can't assume that means they're coming. it means they're lazy, like most people!

I'm so sorry! People are horrible!

Now I'm nervous about my shower this weekend! Especially after the around-the-clock shower comment! :-o (Ha, don't get me started about how much it's costing us to fly to Indiana just for this shower... well intentioned FMIL really wanted to do this shower... hope people come!)

My shower was last weekend, I probably had about 30 people but it was great. My mom, who had told me she didn't want to come did come. My sister did not, she said she could not get out of work. The only wrong thing, my best friend from high school, who had promised only the DAY before did not show up or call to explain why. When i text her that night, she ignored it. Finally the next day when I commented on one of status updates on FB she then text me telling me I had no room to say anything that I didn't know about and that the reason the didn't come was because she was up to 7 am(partying i'm positive) "fighting with her roommate" Needless to say, she is NO LONGER in my wedding. Sad because i had originally asked her to be my MOH. and she's on the program. But at this point IDC. She is nothing but selfish. My vent, i'm sorry. I understand your frustration and will pray for your sis and you to have a beautiful wedding(: God Bless.