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Beginner April 2021

Wedding Shock

Leticia, on June 9, 2019 at 12:34 AM

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This is day 1 of officially starting my planning my wedding (same day I signed up for this place), so far my fiance doesn't show interest in actually start any planning (thinks its too soon). So I decided to take it up upon myself and start at least making a list of people I want to invite so I have...

This is day 1 of officially starting my planning my wedding (same day I signed up for this place), so far my fiance doesn't show interest in actually start any planning (thinks its too soon). So I decided to take it up upon myself and start at least making a list of people I want to invite so I have an idea of how many people will come in order to calculate how big the venue needs to be, how much food/drinks I need, and how much I need to spend. I'm in the middle of a group game (those in familiar with DND), and I ask him how to spell his family's name to start family table.


He asks me what I was doing, and tell him its nothing, bugs me like a kid asking their parents for something, I tell him I'm making a list of people to invite and BAM! he's in "shock" because its too early to plan. Of course I laugh and keep telling him we need to get quotes from venues and caters and we need an estimate # of how many want to attend. I understand he think's its early, but i'd like to plan things i can plan and later work on gathering the money together and actually book things.


Advice on how I can get my future hubby to join in? I really want him to join in the experience of planning it together Smiley heart

#convincefuturehubby

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  • L
    Beginner April 2021
    Leticia ·
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    I'm sure once his family knows they can convince him to get serious. Were hoping to make the guest list as small as possible but its tempting to invite everyone you know and love

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  • Kimberly
    Savvy November 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    Mine is the same way. I’ve heard no one will ever be as excited about the wedding as the bride and it’s pretty true. It’s like pulling teeth to get him to help or decide on anything so my maid of honor and I are basically planning on our own. The only thing he’s all for doing is tasting cake lol
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    Dedicated September 2021
    Holly ·
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    I'm having the same issue. We are 470 days out and I've already picked my dress and have started looking at and emailing venues and a photographer. He constantly asks what I'm doing and I say "research on the wedding". He thinks we can just show up and get married and eat good food someplace while dragging 35 people around with us. He will eventually come around but this is both our first time planning anything like this. I hate being rushed to do anything and need to be prepared so I will do what I can until I really need his input or money, etc.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I would hold off with planning until he showed interest.
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