Wedding Rehearsal Conflict

When are you normally supposed to have your rehearsal and dinner? I always thought the night before the wedding was the best time and most convenient for those traveling from out of town. We had been planning ours for Friday night for our Saturday wedding.

I recently found out that one of the engaged couples in my circle just moved their wedding to the day before ours two hours away from town. One of our groomsmen is in their wedding, our officiant who is also like a dad to my fiancé (and runs our rehearsal btw) is invited to their wedding, and we have many mutual guests.

We aren’t super close so we aren’t invited to each other’s weddings. However we know they know we’re engaged and they know we know they’re engaged. I have been trying so hard to keep up on the weddings in our circle to make sure there aren’t any date conflicts. They had been planning on getting married in May and from what I can tell on Facebook they did get married. I didn’t know they were trying to plan a bigger wedding still so I didn’t tell them what our date was and they didn’t ask anyone in their wedding party who would have told them our wedding is the day after theirs nor did they even look on social media or ask us.
Anyway, I don’t want our officiant to have to miss their wedding to do our rehearsal on Friday even though he has offered. But almost nobody including my dad can come on Wednesday. On Thursday the flowers deliver and I’m making the bouquets so we can’t do that evening. My fiancé isn’t free during the day all week because of work. It’s sounding like Friday is our only option for the rehearsal but I feel bad.
I would appreciate any and all advice.