wedding reception with christian and non christians

We are Christians and are having a church wedding. A majority of our guests are people of faith as well. We decided to serve alcohol to our guests and will play secular music but will not play anything with profanity or vulgar lyrics.

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The guests at our wedding are either Christian or far from it. I plan on sitting the lesbian couple we went to school and work with far from the super conservative guests. My Christians friends believe that Christians can have fun too. We plan on drinking and dancing.We won't be serving hard liquor because we don't want things to get out of hand. I would have the reception some where else just so people could let loose. I might feel a little weird getting down at the church.

Lolol thats funny and very true, many christian friends of mine feel the same way - thanks

I was in the same dilemma, we decided to have an open bar the entire night & have our DJ & MC play "Christian" friendly music. I just made up that term, Christian Friendly music, lol It all about the guest list, we were very careful not to chose family or friends that were known to drink too much & at a fool. I'm happy to report, everyone had a wonderful time & we danced the night away. We had a Soul Train Line, with the Groom's guest on one side & the Bride's on the other side, the song that was played was "Happy". this really set the tone of the reception.

We could have had the same problem. We decided that it's our wedding and anyone who is offended with anything we do can just get over it. We're not out to control our guests, nor will we change our vision of our ceremony & reception to fit into someone else's beliefs or likings.

What does drinking have to do with being Christian?

We have the opposite problem. We are far from Christian and some of our guests are very... so. Should be hilarious.

Some christians don't agree 100% with the whole drinking thing, could have been because they used to do it a lot when they weren't christian, over drinking, you know? i don't have a problem but i know many guest may have a problem

Your guests can decide for themselves if they would like to stay and dance and drink or if it's not for them and they can call it a night. The majority of wedding receptions have drinking and dancing, they shouldn't be surprised or offended.

Well, part of my family are Pentecostal (my mom is die hard Pentecostal), some are Christians and FH family are Catholics LOL...We're having alcohol and music and whoever doesn't feel comfortable can leave....My mom understand that FH and I don't really practice religion but we do have faith and our believes....As long as people are not drunk acting a fool, my mom will be totally ok with it.

Yea i know, i don't think its common at christian weddings though, although i don't see a problem with fun party songs that are harmless and are there to have a good time and get everyone involved.

I'm with ThefutureMrsZ.

I'm Eastern Orthodox, when you go one of the services, you can hear the direct translation of the New testament (I was written in Greek). The priest gives us wine during the service then we have a party and dance all night, with belly dancing. The priest is usually there. So I'm not understanding the no drinking/dancing with being christian. It does not compute.

We are all also pentecostals, this is why I'm so panicked @futuremrspereira

I can understand why LOL - My mom is better now....she used to be so strict before! But at the end of the day this is your day and I'm sure your family will respect the fact that its a wedding not a club...

I hope so, our families are dominican and well we know how they can get, i just hope everything turns out ok - thanks for your responces @futuremrspereira

I see we have a few things in common - I use to live in NY, got engaged in a helicopter and my fam is Pentecostal lol and my name is Mareli....close to yours.

Hahahahahah!!! woahhh!! thats crazy and so cool @futuremrspereira

Please don't take offense Marelyn, but there is so much about this I don't get; once you get Christian you stop drinking? Like both can't coexist? You don't dance? David, "danced before the lord" remember? It's right in the bible. I don't get it, (and honestly, I don't know that God would either, since music and dancing is all over the bible.....)

(ETD; i didn't mean YOU personally, but you as in all of us)

If you decide that drinking and dancing are part of a celebration, I'd do it someplace else where you can offer that to the roughly 3/4 of the crowd that will enjoy it.

I've done a lot of weddings with a lot of Christian content, and right after the ceremony is an open bar and music; that says JOY to me!

Again, don't take offense, but I've never understood this demonstration of faith....

My first reaction when I read what you wrote was confusion. I don't understand the need to worry about mixing of Christians and non Christians. I think what sounds like more of an issue is what are the expectations of your guests vrs what you are wanting to provide. I think if you clarify what you are providing those that choose to attend will be there to support your vision of your wedding day.

I am an atheist but I don't think if I was a guest at anyone's wedding that they should plan around me. To me attending weddings are about celebrating in the joy of my friends and family and providing support in their union.

My wedding was loaded with Christians from he ceremony to my wedding party to guests and that wasn't an issue for me or them. I have attended many weddings as a guest for friends that were more conservative Christians...that didn't impact my happiness for them or wiliness to celebrate in whatever fashion was best fitting of them.