Wedding postponed :( Irritated with the military. Advice?

I think your dress is beautiful and would be perfect for.either courthouse or beach. Good luck!

Thank you!

Also for your curiosity's sake, here are pics of my big poofy dress

I think your courthouse dress is gorgeous!! I'm so sorry that you had to postponed your wedding.. The better side is that you get to see him in April and that's cool!! Like u said you may get that beach wedding instead hope everything works out for u

I've always wanted a beach wedding, but FH insisted we have a church wedding. Looks like we may both end up getting our way afterall and thank you for the support ladies!

BTW ur wedding dress is beautiful

I think both dresses are absolutely stunning!

My other thought, and I say this kindly and compassionately as a former Navy brat and as someone who now works for the Navy as a career, is that you should consider this to be par for the course as long as your spouse is on active duty. He has chosen a noble profession and I thank him wholeheartedly for his service, but it will be difficult for you and your family together. He'll miss birthdays, anniversaries, lazy Sunday mornings, and many other occasions where you'll want nothing more than to have him with you. My suggestion to both of you is that you find a way to recreate those moments when he IS home, and keep yourself occupied with friends and hobbies when his duties take him away from home. It sounds like your trip to see him in April will be great!

I have tremendous respect for you - being a military wife is not easy. I hope your original plans do work out, but keep your chin up and vent to us if they don't!

Thank you so much @Amanda G. It is so much harder than I could've ever imagined. We've been apart for a majority of our relationship, I'm looking forward to living together! And yes, I know all too well how missed well almost everything's feel. They suck! And I'm sure marriage isn't going to be the end to those missed events, but being with him is worth it! "Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time apart in exchange for a little time with the ones they love. It is for those who know a good thing when they see it, even if they do not see it nearly enough" <- rough quote, but I am attempting to quote from memory, but basically I try to live by that.

I'm a military bride too and was in back when FH and I first met and the one thing they pounded into our heads was adapt and overcome... mostly cause uncle sam has this remarkably recurring theme of screwing over those who serve (and their loved ones)... And sounds like you're doing it! Resilience is key in any relationship but especially for a military bride and sounds like you are doing surprisingly well at holding it together!

I know it sucks that things didnt turn out the way you planned but when plan A doesn't work out for you never forget you still have 25 more letters! You'll get your big day still and I love that dress for a beach wedding!!!! I love your poofy dress too but as you pointed out its not as practical on a plane lol

Keep your head up and if you're out any money on this never forget that money comes and goes but the chance to spend the rest of your life with the man you love is forever and hold onto that cause... well this sucks but not all is lost! Prayers!

Awe thank you so much for the encouraging words! That is sooo true!

@Brittany B ~I'm sorry you have to postpone your wedding, but I'm so glad you were able to at least book a vacation to go see him! Dealing with the military isn't easy, especially when it comes to making future plans, but you are so brave and wonderful to be jumping into a military marriage head first! I'm sure you are super bummed, but I bet many people have told you that when it is finally able to happen, it'll be amazing because it'll finally be the perfect situation for you guys! Wish you the best of luck in hopes you guys are able to get married sooner rather than later. Enjoy your vacation :-)

@Brittany, that's a great quote and so true!

My "FH" and I did a courthouse wedding almost 4 years ago because I was being deployed to Iraq and when I came back I would have been separated from him and our daughter for an additional 2 years if we weren't married. We kept it on the DL (do people still say that?!) though and now we will be FINALLY (2 deployments later) having our ceremony with friends and family on our 4 year wedding anniversary. I say go for the courthouse wedding now so you can be together : )

Oh and the dress is beautiful!

I love the dress!

I'm mil-to-mil and that sucks too. We almost postponed our date because we were supposed to go to our next base this month but they extended till July... which meant more $$ to spend on travelling back to the states (I'm in Italy). But we figured if we postpone it NOW... then something else will come up. Being in the military means being able to "go with the flow" which is extremely frustrating. I've missed weddings, birthdays, and I havent been home for Christmas ever since I enlisted =(. What everyone else said is true, having an understanding spouse is KEY in a military relationship. Today they're at work, and tomorrow they'll get orders to some random place for 1wk/1month/1yr. What's meant to be will find it's way =) and also, don't give up hope and him getting his leave approved! My leave has gotten approved literally the day BEFORE I wanted to start -_-. ALSO, if you mention its for his wedding.. he can talk to his leadership to try to expidite the process.

*cont* I'm not sure how the Navy works, but in the Air Force weddings are considered to be "special circumstances" and since he's waiting for a medical approval... NOT a "mission essential" approval -- like a deployement -- he can definitely talk to his chain of command. Where there's a will theres a way!!!!!!!!! Even in the military!!!!! =) Sad to say, but its also "who you know" =\.. if he's in good with his commander... that can go a longggggggg way

Did you get military clauses in your contracts?

I love BOTH of your dresses!

Brittany, April is a beautiful month for beach weddings here in Sarasota (hint, hint)!

Is your FH in Orlando?

He's actually in Jacksonville, but I fly into Orlando. We're gonna spend some time in Cocoa beach I'm so excited! And @MrsNrs he isn't even allowed to put in for leave until his medical paperwork goes through, and he's tried talking to his commander. I guess we will see but I did get insurance on my flight in case it needs to be rescheduled lol! And thank you DnE2013VR Where is Sarasota? I've never been there but I'm going to look into it Thanks ladies, having your support helps so much during these times of frustration!

What Megan M. said!

People get married all the time on Cocoa Beach : ) There are a lot of wedding companies that can make it as simple or elaborate as you want. Mine provides the officiant, photographer, flowers, and decorations. The simple ceremonies look super romantic!!

I'm intruiged by this whole thing. I'm active duty navy myself and never had to deal with medical stuff to take leave. But I would also point out, leave can be approved in a day or two pending on what the actual hold up length of leave is going to be. It's a rough life to jump into and there are always going to be adjustments to make; but I would say you're doing a good job so far of keeping your head up when the "seas get rough," if you'll humor my ocean pun.

I would talk to your vendors though, hopefully they're willing to work with you given the issue, if they're in a military area then the odds are good that they have military clauses built in, though sometimes those only cover deployments.