Wedding planning feels so isolating

Can you point to exactly what you're having an issue with? FH and you are the only ones supposed to be involved in wedding planning.

I don't feel like this at all. Don't let the planning consume your life - problem solved.

I'm sorry. It can be very stressful, and it sound a little like depression (i'm not a doctor, i'm not telling you you have it, i'm just explaining what it sounds like based off what you are describing.)

My advice is to take a break from it. A day, a few days, a week even... It will be there when you are ready again. Find something you enjoy and do it- take walks, yoga, eating ice cream, dates with friends... Whatever it takes. Its easy to feel this way, but you've gotta take breaks when you need them!

Is it because planning is taking time away from friends and family? I'm not sure exactly what you mean. But I never felt isolated. I spent the same amount of time with friends and family, occasionally talked about the wedding but not too much to make them annoyed with me. And I did the planning in my free time.

I feel the same way!

The stress of it can lead to feeling overwhelmed which can be isolating. I get it. If you have generalized anxiety it can make it worse. Remember to take time for self care, take a bath, meditate, get a massage, just try and pick something just to do for yourself.

Girl, I am with you. I think PPs are having a hard time understanding what you mean if they aren't feeling it themselves because it is nearly impossible to explain this feeling.

While I'm not letting wedding planning take over my life, it is just constantly lingering there over everything. My personality of needing everything to be thought out and organized and planned for doesn't help. Even when I'm not responding to an email vendor or actively tackling to-do list items, this 'stuff' is just always there in my brain.

For me, the isolating part comes into play when I realize these lingering things, at this extreme level are only in MY brain. FH is great when I ask him for opinions or when he has a perspective on something wedding related, but he has very little understanding of the logistical scope of throwing a party for 150+ guests. And because it's in my nature to organize and plan, I organically became the lead on all of our planning. So I do feel isolated at times when I'm having a bit of anxiety over something and he is going happily about his day adding in a comment here and there without understanding the ripple effect it may cause. I am SO happy to be planning a day to celebrate our love with people we love, but I definitely feel like I have been operating on a different frequency the past few months.

My MOH was married this past June and shares many of my 'need to plan' personality traits so it's been great getting to release a little bit of this onto her and to have someone say "oh, I was the same way!" just to commiserate a bit.

Maybe my experience isn't a complete parallel to yours, but I feel you.

I feel the same way. It's mostly because no one else but me is as excited about it as I am (rightly so) and then it starts to feel more like a chore. I also start to worry about picking the wrong vendors, about things going wrong, etc.

You're not alone. I don't think wedding planning is very fun and now I'm almost wishing I would have just hired a full on planner.

Thanks ladies ! Yes I think I just need a breather weekend and hopefully my mind gets re adjusted

And to the first few commenters thanks for your input. I understand we don't all share the same experience. I'm glad you are enjoying the process! Best wishes

I feel stressed about the planning as well. i constantly feel like im forgetting to do something or that i need or should be planning something but my FH always tells me that we have plenty of time. i dont think we do, we are getting married in October. theres still so much we need to do......maybe we owe ourselves a spa day!

I certainly do find it stressful, since it's a lot to consider. I feel so bad that almost every conversation with my family winds up coming back around to the wedding -- there are other things happening in our lives and the world! I also really make an effort not to talk about the wedding with people unless they ask first, so that can seem a bit isolating. There are parts of the process that I'm enjoying, but with all of the other things on my plate I sometimes fantasize about having unlimited funds to hire a wedding planner so I all I have to do is yay or nay -- or just running off to the courthouse. But I'm also happy with the direction things are going, and at the end of the day I'm going to be married to a pretty swell guy. So keeping my eye on the end goal helps

Without WW I would feel the same way. I have such comfort speaking Wedding to a bunch of strangers. I get weirded out when people I know ask about details. I'm super introverted and it makes me feel like I'm in the spotlight. Ugh. My boss pointed to a note on my desk about an alteration appt and asked about my dress yesterday. I had to discuss that and then text her a pic. I'd prefer to post on here. I can't wait til it's over with.

I feel similarly. I am so excited to marry my fiancé, but sometimes this all feels like so much effort, time, money and stress... I am an introverted person by nature, so it's forced me out of my comfort zone a lot -- meeting with vendors, people asking me about my wedding, making my guest list, trying to please others to the extent that is reasonable - it takes a toll on me. But I feel confidently it's all worth it, and I've been shrugging little stuff off more easily.

@Livefreebride me too! I never knew how introverted I was until wedding planning! Haha

In general, people don't see planning a party as isolating. And what you're planning--other than the ceremony itself--is a party. If you let go of all the "wedding" mystique, and just treat it as a party, planning will be easier and feel less isolating.

I had a little bit of this going. We are planning the wedding on a bit of an accelerated time scale (4.5 months to plan) and the first month of planning (after an initial 2 weeks of of newly engaged bliss) felt very stressful. I don't like spending money, or feeling pressured to make decisions. So FH and I made a list of the time sensitive decisions we both needed to be a part of (budget, venue, guest list, officiant, photographer, general plan about the day), powered through them. We had one "fight", but were mature enough to talk through what we were actually concerned about (*hint* its never actually about centerpieces).

When all the critical stuff was done, we put planning on a time-out and enjoyed the fact that the marriage is going to happen! Since then I've been able to enjoy the more frivolous and fun decisions, secure in the knowledge that my choices will only enhance our special day.

Our mantra throughout has been (tongue in cheek): "worst" case scenario, we get married. (ie. don't get worked up about the small stuff).

OP- Hope you refind your joy with wedding planning like I did

I feel the same way. I literally took the whole month of December off, no wedding planning or wedding talk because I was just so overwhelmed. It does get lonely for sure, it's stressful and so exhausting.. Just make sure to take care of yourself first!