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Wedding Planning Blues

Amanda, on April 28, 2019 at 10:16 AM Posted in Planning 0 15

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Planning a wedding from what I understand is supposed to be such a fun time in your life. Lately it has felt more like a frustrating burden. From my photographer changing the timeframe four times on when we will get our engagement pics back to family members offering to “help” plan the wedding but really they mean take over. I have already had a family member make a decision about my wedding without even asking me about it first. My fiancé is being bombarded with texts and phone calls everyday on every intricate detail of the planning process and now he is frustrated also. I am at the point where this isn’t exciting anymore and can’t wait to get it over with. Can anyone relate or have any encouragement on this.

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on June 28, 2019 at 11:45 AM

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Formerbride · on April 28, 2019 at 12:07 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed! Maybe it's best to tell those who have offered help that you appreciate it, but you'd rather them enjoy the wedding as a guest and not a planner. I think it's an all or nothing situation. If people are involving your fiance in a manner that he does not like, he has to tell them himself. I hope you feel better!
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Mandi · on April 28, 2019 at 2:13 PM
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I can totally relate to this.
We had 3 venues tell us they might have other events going on the day we wanted it. Even tho they didnt have any money down yet.
We had another venue tell us they wouldn't book our event til 4 months out.
And on top of this, we were trying to buy a house, and the lady decided she'd rather foreclose instead of fix a major issue and sell it to us.
I feel you.

Can you ignore the phone calls and texts? Or take a week off from thinking about it? We actually ended up starting to plan our honeymoon, because we were tired of wedding and house issues.

Just consider this a speed bump. 😊
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Amanda · on April 28, 2019 at 2:21 PM
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Thanks Mandi and wow sounds like you REALLY have a lot of stuff going on. Good luck with both the wedding planning and home purchase. You read my mind on taking a break. I was just thinking of taking a full week away from all wedding planning and excited to do that! Congratulations on your engagement and take care!
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Amanda · on April 28, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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Thanks Steph! This is good advice especially the part stating my fiancé communicating to his loved ones to stop texting him everyday if he doesn’t want to hear it. Congratulations on your engagement and happy planning to you!!
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Futuremrs · on April 28, 2019 at 2:57 PM
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Wedding planning is one of the least fun experiences of my life. I'm hating almost all of it. It pretty much ranks up with when I had back surgery. I'm sure everything will be lovely and I'll enjoy it all at the time, but for me, no, planning is not fun.
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Samantha · on April 28, 2019 at 5:31 PM
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Take a week or two off from wedding planning if you can! Plan some fun things, date nights, massage, manicure etc. I did this and it was so refreshing. It was like hitting the reset button and was able to plan much more effectively after having some time to clear my head. Good luck! Everything will work out and your wedding day will be lovely 😊
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User2574599655703 · on April 28, 2019 at 5:35 PM
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I can relate. We’re having a destination wedding and are planning a trip to see the venue and do all of our tastings. It was only supposed to be me, my fiancé, my mom and my wedding planner. It has now ballooned into my sister, her boyfriend and a random “designer” my mom found. I finally had to tell my mom that we have too many decisions to make in a short amount of time and I do not want everyone’s opinion. They are welcome to come to the walkthrough, but tastings are off limits.
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Amanda · on April 28, 2019 at 6:11 PM
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I am sorry you have had zero fun planning, glad to know someone can relate. I sure the day will turn out great for you, congratulations!!
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Amanda · on April 28, 2019 at 6:13 PM
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I hear ya, tastings are important. Good luck with everything and nice to know I am not the only one of there with these frustrations. Congratulations!!
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Amanda · on April 28, 2019 at 6:14 PM
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Thanks Samantha!! I think I need a week or two break and planning one. Great advice and congratulations to you!!!
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Summer · on April 29, 2019 at 12:21 AM
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I have been there myself. Like you, I came on here and asked if I was feeling alone. You are not! The advice that some amazing people on here gave me really helped: take a few days break where you don't discuss the wedding at all. Use this time to do some self-care and relaxing activities. Once you have recharged your batteries, it is a little easier. Good luck!
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Formerbride · on April 29, 2019 at 10:20 AM
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You're welcome. Congrats to you as well. I found myself trying to make everything so easy for my FH, then I realized he's in this too, lol!
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Clíodhna · on June 27, 2019 at 7:27 AM
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How have you felt about planning since, Amanda? I hope things have gotten better
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Amanda · on June 27, 2019 at 2:27 PM
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Hi Cliodhna, thank you for asking!! Things are MUCH better and I think I just needed a break. I took a 10 day break from planning and during that spent a few days out of town on a family trip. The break was super helpful and now I am not feeling near as stressed and just trying to have fun with it! Thanks again for asking! ❤️
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Clíodhna · on June 28, 2019 at 11:45 AM
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I'm so happy to hear that, Amanda!
It's so important to take care of yourself during planning.
It can be stressful and overwhelming at times and breaks are necessary
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