Wedding Party Sucks! ughh

Oh yeah and totally forgot to mention a madrina aka godmother I asked totally backed out llastminute..smh

My first wedding was the same way..Everyone wanted titled but no one wanted the responsibility. My MOH did NOTHING. So this wedding I'm not asking for any help except from my mom or dad... And you know what no stress!! If it doesn't get done I can only blame myself. Good luck!!!! :-)

Hello! insomnia on the west coast Here. I've said it before and I'll say it again: you cannot make other people care about your wedding. Ideally they would want to help but at the end of the day this is your wedding and not theirs. I have had a really good planning experience because I have been honest and upfront with my WP and made it less of a chore and more easy going. Your bridal party will want to do wedding things with you if you make it fun and a positive experience. Good luck!

I totally had one of those weeks where I felt completely burdened and felt like my bridesmaids weren't there. The best thing you can do is release them of responsibility. Do what you need to get done and if they just happen to end up helping, gladly accept it. You'll pull your hair out getting angry about them not helping....so don't expect their help. Yeah I know what all the books and blogs say about the role of a bridesmaid...and I fully agree that those are the responsibilities they've signed up for....but if they can't follow through you've got two choices: knix them or accept them as they are. Unless you want to end up bridesmaid-less it may be easier to just accept their faults and do what you need to do.

I know what your talking about... Half of my wedding party sucks but a few... including my sister who is a bridesmaid and my moh who is my best friend... and the best man who didnt even show up to the bachelor party! but hey its all about me and FH being married... as long as my bridal party shows up and smiles on our day... I will be happy!

Sorry that does sound hard.

But they don't have to do anything. They just have to turn up and that's it. Anything else sound never ever be expected.

As @mc4 said no one will ever care about you wedding the way you do.

Just because you are getting married their lives do not then just include the wedding, they have lives.

Its simple if you would like them to do more or be involved, ask them.

Don't complain if they say they can't or don't want to they have their own priorities but then they also might be a bit more involved.

I guess you guys are right, I am a perfectionist with this wedding and I always end up with the motto "If you want something done right you gotta do it yourself" lol i think that time of the month is just around the corner thus why im freaking out! Lol

That sucks! But it is your wedding not theirs:/

Hmm my problem is the opposite...I have most of my wedding planned to a T my MOH and I are taking care of almost everything. But I have one bridesmaid that wants to take everything over. She keeps coming up with stuff that I already have figured out (Example: where to get cake, the thyme for my wedding, etc) and when I tell her all of this stuff is done she acts like her feelings are hurt, like I am shooting her ideas down. I need to get her a job to do to keep her busy and keep her nose out of things that are already set. I have to be careful what job I come up with for her though because I am afraid she will do it her way and get all kinds of upset if I tell her I want it done a certain way. The MOH and I are thinking about letting her plan the bachelorette party that will keep her busy and not let her overtake my day. She needs to understand it is my day and not get upset that I am organized and have most of the details figured out.

Well once I fired the MOH that was being a downer and not doing anything things have been great. My bridesmaids and new MOH have tried to help. And my fmil has been an absolute peach! My fmil and MOH take each project as it is done and moves it to the "done" room and therefore I cant rethink things. Up this weekend is getting to work on three or four things I have put off after I finish the pirate shirts.

Oh you will experience even more than you have now with your wedding party. Some of them will be awesome and others not so much. You do see the true colors of people when it comes to having them in your bridal party. One of my BMs was helpful, but a week out she got super high maintenance over her dress alterations and it carried through the rehearsal, dinner and the wedding day. She loved her makeup and hair until she saw mine and then wanted it like that. She is an amazing girl but I feel she got jealous towards the end and that is how it came out.

I'm with you completely. my MOH WAS my best friend. we currently aren't even speaking. i told her to just stop the drama....just to show up at the church because i don't care anymore and i don't have time to get another girl. one of my other BMs is in the process of going through a divorce so she's completely detached from everything....walks around like a zombie. she's the only one that has a real excuse. my mother is dead set on things being her way or she's not gonna help me decorate things. my FMIL is the devil....there is no nice way to put it....my only hope is that i can outlive that woman and see a few years of happiness. all 3 of my FBILs are jerks and i'm not even sure how my FH is part of his family....like daylight and dark there! it's not good. i've learned one thing: WEDDINGS BRING OUT THE ABSOLUTE WORST IN PEOPLE!!!

I have totally found out who is and isn't on my side while planning this wedding, lol. I so feel you. I've already had to let go of 2 stresses so now I have 2 bm and 4 gm lol. I don't mind though. I'm very self sufficient and it's easier just doing things myself instead of having people deflecting their own drama into my happy day! Good luck! And don't let others spoil your happiness!

People will say that people shouldn't care about your wedding but it's not true, I hate you are dealing with that and your bridal party are supposed to be the people who you rely on the most! When they say yes to being in your bridal party it's their duty to help out in many ways. Good luck.