Wedding party plus ones

I absolutely belief bridal party members should get plus one's. At the moment they're the only single guests who will be able to bring someone, but that was a no brainer for me and I built their guests into the numbers when making the guest list. They are likely spending a lot of money and doing a lot for you at your wedding and I just think to make them be there alone isn't right. My FH was a groomsmen a few months ago and while I did have to sit alone during the ceremony and for about half of cocktail hour while they took pictures, we got to spend the whole reception together and dance together. So their guests will still be able to spend most of the night with them. Also, think of it this way...only one of my bridesmaids is single at the moment and the only people she knows going to the wedding are all in relationships. Those people will be spending time with their SO's and dancing together, and I don't want her feeling left out and alone when she's doing so much for our special day. I couldn't imagine telling her she can't bring a friend or date or keep her company so she can have a great time.

If people are in a committed relationship at the time invitations are being addressed, usually in the two weeks before they go out, they should get one. Lots of people give one to any adult in the wedding. Most weddings I have been in, I have spent less than ½ hour after the reception beginning with the bride, sometimes just ten minutes a few times. And 4-5.5 with my date. Or friends. Not bride, who is off visiting others, or dancing with Groom or anyone who asks her. There is nothing to do for bride, and she pays little attention to BP when surrounded by 50-200 other people. I would have turned down being MOH or BM in many weddings if told I could not have my boyfriend there . Or dropped out, if that is when I found out. Because though I have been to many weddings alone when not dating someone, ir date or husband could not attend, it I were being MOH or BM for a friend or relative, I would not accept being treated with LESS courtesy than other guests. And anyone in a committed relationship, at invitation time, gets invited with SO, as one social unit. MOH is not a ladies maid or personal social secretary running around ministering to your every need or wish for 8 hours. Except if making a speech or toast, once the reception starts, she will have little to do with bride that she would not do with her date by her side. You expect her to stand at the side of the dance floor while you dance 40 dances? Trail behind you while you visit every table, or greet every guest? I hope not, or you are in for a shock.

If financing 2 dates for RD, Sunday brunch is a problem, then you should either help finance your own event so you can be polite to your BP , supposedly your nearest and dearest, or else you plan a less expensive venue or less expensive food and drink choices. You don't exclude someone's SO.

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They need to help me pee. And they can dance with ME! lol..

What have you decided about your bridesmaids bringing a plus one?

I gave my bridal party options for plus one. Out of 8 total between BM and GM we have 4 that are single and we extended a plus one. Only 1 would be bringing a plus one, the others would attend alone. I’m having a destination wedding so that was a big reason for that. Either way I think bridal party does so much they deserve a plus one.