Wedding Party Help!

We did not have a wedding party, except for a flower girl and ring bearer. Less hassle, less drama, less to worry about. Plus I couldn't think of any practical reason why we needed one (and my husband felt the same). Our friends and family still loved us and supported us just the same, and still generously stepped up to host a bachelorette trip, bridal shower, and kept me company while I got ready on wedding day. No regrets whatsoever!

This is a personal decision. It's really common nowadays to forgo the wedding party thing. Totally up to you and your partner--it's perfectly acceptable to not do a wedding party. (Also, regardless of having a wedding coordinator or not, a wedding party should not actually be responsible for any legitimate logistic "duties" anyway).

You should do whatever makes your happy. I’ve been to a few second weddings with no bridal party. As a second time bride myself I only had my daughter as a bridesmaid and my husband had his best friend because we wanted things to be simple.

Whatever you want! I will PROMISE you that no wedding party will be 100% less stress. We were older, too, (52) and I had my two college age sons stand with me and my hubs had his cousin. Easy! Best wishes!!!!

We are not having a wedding party with the exception of my fiancé’s niece and nephew as flower girl and ring bearer. Our wedding is in a month and we feel it’s been one of the best decisions

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That sounds perfect! So glad I'm not the only one lol

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Thank you so much! Love the idea of your sons standing with you. My son is 16 and never thought of him standing with me.

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Thank you! I'm all about simple

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Yeah they couldn't say no, I was the mom, lol! And none of the guys matched suits, we were like wear a jacket and tie - informal yet a little dressy affair. I had one hold my bouquet during the ceremony and stand next to me and the other signed the license!

Wedding parties are entirely optional and entirely unnecessary. My husband has three groomsmen and I have no bridesmaids. You can do whatever feels right to you!

View Quoted Comment I can’t love this enough! My son just got recruited for wedding duty lol

View Quoted Comment Thank you Kari!

I knew as soon as we were engaged that I didn’t want a wedding party. I discussed it with my FH and he feels the same, all of our close friends and family will be there celebrating our special day with us and that’s all we want, really. My niece will be our flower girl and that’s about it. To each her own, but I honestly feel like my planning has been soo much less stressful because of it.

Wow!! You sound like us. FH and I are both second time bride and groom, we’re not the typical 20-something couple (thank goodness… Lol), we don’t have a wedding party and we just want to have a fun and chill time. We want our family and friends to sit back and enjoy the wedding as special guests. Instead of being bothered with jobs as a bridesmaid or groomsman on our wedding day. The only individuals with obligations that day are our vendors (not our loved ones). We’ve had no drama or issues in the 2.5 years we’ve been planning (thank covid). And I believe it has to do with everything listed above.


We’re having our wedding at an oceanfront hotel, with the ceremony on the beach and the reception on the hotel’s rooftop. As you said— simple, fun and easy is exactly how it should be. Congrats!!!

I've seen it a few times and thought it looked great. I wouldn't worry about it. A wedding party won't make a difference to your guests, and that's what's important.

We are not having a WP. Our guest count is 110-125 (not final because of potential significant others, some guest might start a new relationship) but stiln no WP even though we considered a micro-WP with a MOH and best woman only (my sis and my fiancé's twin sis). We eventually decided to ditch this altogether: one thing less to coordinate, no rehearsal needed, it saves money and we want a simple,non-traditional wedding.

No wedding party, just immediate family to stand with us. Originally we were only having siblings, but as time went on their significant others became more family due to being engaged or having kids. So we are having them enter with their other half’s, no titles, no drama from flaky friends, just family that has supported us. They are dressed as a WP but no stress or jobs for them besides getting ready that day.

Kim, for what its worth we just had our wedding celebration and I didn't have any bridesmaids but I had three friends come early to help with flowers and get ready with me (one of them also helped with my hair). It was awesome. I felt so supported but didn't have to worry about coordinating dresses or a ton of pre-planning to have them involved. If you don't care about bridal party photos or having people stand with you at your wedding, I wouldn't hesitate to skip the official group of bridesmaids but still feel free to invite some friends to spend some extra time with you that day, getting ready or doing pre-wedding stuff, if you want to.