Wedding on Sept 11, 2021?

No. I know people that have gotten married on that date and if they are really that offended they do not have to attend. Do not cater to what your guests what or think rather what works best for you two.

I think you need to look at who you are inviting and what it would mean to the people you want there. For me, it’s an absolute no because my best friend is a marine went to war because of 9/11. So for that reason I wouldn’t touch the date out of respect for him. I have other military, police officers, and firefighters coming to our wedding and they all have something special they do to pay tribute on that day to their fallen brothers and sisters. If your guests aren’t really a part of that and you don’t think they would be bothered by the date, then it may be okay.

I don't see a problem with it. & I also don't think you choosing that as your wedding date is insensitive. Your wedding has absolutely nothing to do with what happened on 9/11. I agree with Kristen, if they are offended to the point where they won't attend your wedding then, not to be rude, but oh well.

I don't see an issue with it. Tragedies happend every single day. No matter what day tou choose, it can be a negative date for anyone, anywhere in the world.

I don't see an issue either.

I think you're fine. I live in NJ, in a suburb of NYC and have a lot of family in NYC. My uncle worked near the towers but was luckily fine. If you have a lot of people directly affected by 9/11, then maybe I wouldnt. However, as others said, tragedies happen on tons of other dates as well. No one is asking if it's ok to hold a wedding on the day of Pearl Harbor or the Sandy Hook shooting or any of the other horrible events that have happened in our lifetimes. It is a sad day for many who lost loved ones, but I wouldn't necessarily think it's taboo to hold a wedding on that day if you and the majority of your guests weren't personally affected.

I don't see an issue, but like Allie mentioned, def. look through your guest list and make sure there won't be anyone invited that would take offense to it. Guests that are in the armed forces, national guard, emergency aid etc, or guests that were closely affected by 9/11, could view it as insensitive and take offense.

Now, if none of your guests apply, then go for it! I've heard of many couples that get married on 9/11 and it went smoothly.

I don't see an issue with it. Realistically you cannot spend a century dwelling on an unfortunate event that happened. Recognize it with a moment of silence or what you feel is appropriate and continue with your day.


It's really no different from December 7 (1947..pretty recent history) when the exact same thing happened and the current and 1st prior generations don't bat a single eye at if they even know what it is. You can't tell people not to have birthdays on that day and they no issues celebrating, so why is a wedding taboo?

I think it depends who your guests are. I live in NY and many of our guests were at the towers, whether for work or as first responders so I avoided that date if it was available at a venue.

I see no issue with it... if someone has an issue, that is their problem and they can go about their 9/11 day. I personally don’t give it much thought. I would do whatever you and the fiancé want to do!

Personally, I would not want that as my wedding date just because it’s such a somber day for most people and thats what everyone associates it with. But I dont think anyone would look down on you or not attend, I mean babies are born that day and stuff happens. But next year is the 20th anniversary too so it will likely be extra emotional for people

I personally think it's fine

This is a know your crowd thing.

FIL worked as a civilian for the NYPD and was on site and lost members of his unit on 9/11. So, for us, and anyone very close to us, it's a complete no-go.

But if your crowd doesn't have an intimate connection to it, I think people would rather think of happier things that day.

Hi there, we are wedding date neighbors! We are getting married on September 10th, 2021. Our venue had September 11th available, but we declined it for the associations (we just prefer not to use that date - nothing against those who do) and because we preferred a Friday wedding.

That said, I do not see why you should not get married on whatever date you choose. Here is the thing: if everyone started avoiding dates on which horrible events happened, well, we would probably lose at least half of the 365 days in a year.

However, I think it would be appropriate to acknowledge those who lost their lives that day in some small, subtle way. You guys could make it noticeable, but not in your face.