Wedding "no No's"

Games that stop the music
Honeyfund jar with cute sayings
Money tree
Dollar dance

Dollar dance

"Catholic" gap

Garter/bouquet toss

Any decoration that depicts the bride "dragging" the groom to the altar

Don't do anything that doesn't make YOU happy.

Anything that involves guests being asked/required to get their wallets out- cash bars, dollar dances, honeymoon funds, auctioning off the first spot in the buffet line, money trees....

Unhosted gaps

For me, personally, nothing that involves our guests having to pay. So money dances, cash bars, ect. Also like a PP things like cake toppers that have the bride forcing or dragging the groom. It’s so tacky, I’d be embarrassed if FW ever use decor that made it look like I was forcing her to get married. I also don’t like really long gaps or speeches that make guests have to wait to eat

Bouquet toss and garter toss

Honeyfund jars (people told me to do it but just no)

Money dance.

I never liked anything that depicted that the groom wasn't there of his own free will and an eager participant in the ceremony ("last chance to run" signs, a groom being dragged by the bride, etc). It's outdated and sexist.

Garter/bouquet toss

Cash Bar/Dry Wedding (unless dry is for strict religious reasons and everyone invited is of that religion)

Lifting bride and groom on chairs (I've seen way too many accidents)

Guest book (there's just no need for this)

Making your guests work (filling out cards with advice for the couple, etc.)

Too many spotlight dances

No food/not enough food (if your reception is more that an hour, you need to provide a meal, I don't care what time your wedding is)

Not assigning tables (you don't need to assign seats but assigning tables is a must)

Using table names without numbers. Table names are fine and cute but you should also include a number so people don't have to go on a treasure hunt to find their table

Kids holding/wearing signs - they are people, not a billboard.

Having a small cake to cut and then not having cake for your guests.

In anyway pushing wedding costs on the guests, cash grabbing for a house/honeymoon, forcing or segregating your guests by religion or sexual history (aka not being "pure" enough for the bouquet toss).

I guess there's a religious basis for some of this but any language around "for richer or richer", obeying, ownership, serving, or any diminishing or revoking agency of one of the partners.

Honeyfund
Cash bar
Dry wedding
Money dance
Money tree

Those are the big ones I dislike.

Overly long, like 2-hour ceremony (unless you absolutely have to, but have it no more than an hour which is a little longer than average)

bad DJ/MC - they make the party. Don't go cheap here.

bottom shelf liquor (go in the middle if you can't afford top shelf or have a specialty cocktail and beer and wine)

not enough food

wedding vows that cannot be heard - be sure there is sound

an overly disorderly drunk family member. someone needs to babysit that person if he/she is a "must invite."

too many kids

an elevator in the venue space for your guests (stairs up and down can be stressful for your guests)

messy bathrooms - be sure your venue host is on this

For me it's the garter toss, it's uncomfortable to watch! Also, any game or activity related to giving the couple money (money dance, "who gets the cake to the face" jars, etc.) irritates me.

Anything to do with money really is about it for me. I love a lot of other things people listed

Not much too add except:

Too many songs, reading, readers, unity things. Short and sweet is the way to go.

Pushing/Smashing cake in faces - never cared for this aggressive move. Ever.

Nothing where the guests have to pay for anything.

Receiving lines with anyone more than bride, groom and parents.

Signs, signs, everywhere there are signs!!!

Don't ask bride and groom about baby making plans.....it is very uncomfortable.

Obviously the money grab thing. It's just gross.

The personal attendant thing needs to die the horrible death it deserves. If you haven't heard of it, it's a free day of coordinator that is supposed to be an "honor". Gag!

Garter toss. No need for him to be up your skirt in front of grandma!

Anything that means your guests pay or work.

Also the bouquet/garter toss have long lived out their welcome, IMO.

Those are the big ones for me.

The biggest wedding no-no is not having enough food, drinks, and seats for guests. Other no-no's are to not have guests pay for their meals and drinks-the couple are the hosts and pays for everything.

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So you don't want to hear about my former neighbor's wedding? The one where the mom of the bride worked in a deli and provided the food? And then they ran out? It was a dry wedding too! How many boxes did THAT wedding check off? People were running to the grocery store and buying lunch meats, chips and buns.....no lie.

I also think this was more of a 70's thing: kidnapping the bride and taking her for a drink. Some folks were gone for HOURS. Please, no.

Potlucks! Huge chance of people getting sick, food not handled properly, and who the heck wants to haul their crockpot to a wedding in their nice clothes?

HoneyFund, dollar dances, money jars, house fund, anything directly asking for money is viewed as rude. Imo, if you want the money so bad, elope and use the wedding money instead for whatever you want it for. It just doesn't make sense to me.

Cash bars or any service to pay for. I'm not real offended by this myself, but I understand why it can be seen as rude. You show up to a party, get in the party mood, and suddenly you have to pay for your own food or drink? If you host any kind of party, you provide everything and don't make your guests pay.

I could go on, but I'll list one more. My BIGGEST peeve is when you can tell there was a serious lack in planning. Whether the whole thing was too rushed, nobody cared to pay attention to planning, or there were so many issues that nothing went anywhere, I can't stand showing up to a party or wedding and it's lacking. I'm not talking decorations or anything minor, I'm talking about when no food was prepared so somebody has to run and get last minute dishes (or they ignore having food all together), some kid holding a camera is the photographer because nobody wanted to pay vendors, the flow keeps getting interrupted because nobody knows what to do and when, ect. I thankfully missed a wedding like this. Friends and photos told me the bride didn't care to plan, but rather yammer on and on about the wedding and made it entirely about her. No food, most photos were of only her, no music, a questionable homemade cake topped with unfired clay toppers, and no real reception/guest interaction.

I personally refuse to do a garter toss and fake exit!