Wedding no no?

I think they would have been better off to have worded it as a potluck instead. Seems a bit tacky the way you worded it. As another person wrote, it's a choice. If you feel this strongly, just eat alone or bring something that can feed a few people. I am sure they are looking for a collaborative effort and not you feeding all 150 people.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately no, the wording is very specific. If you are bringing something bring enough for everyone. Not my wording but theirs.

If it was a small family only wedding I could justify it. But 150 people? Not cool. I'd honestly consider not going because it's probably going to be awkward.
Like everyone said eat a large meal before you go because there clearly isn't going to be food. Maybe bring a snack or cookies or something but don't bother trying to figure out for 150. That's totally out of place.

The wedding is this weekend and they're just letting you know this now?! If it's a close (very close) friend or family member, I might go to the ceremony, but I would be bowing out of the reception. It's not like they'll be losing money on the meal if you don't attend.

As others mentioned, there's no way I'd be eating in that environment. I'm uncomfortable enough eating potluck at family events, much less with a bunch of strangers. Who knows not only how it was store, but also how it was cooked. My germophobe self has visions of people licking spoons or sneezing into the pot...

I feel like that is super tacky. People are paying to come to your wedding, and bringing food for 150 people isn’t cheap. That’s a little crazy!

View Quoted Comment Ok. Personally I wouldn't take it so literally because one person can only do so much anyway. Definitely happy it is not a situation I am in, both going and hosting. Would hate for someone to judge me like that but also would hate to feel obligated to cook/bake, etc. Wishing you good luck on this one

GEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ! How uncomfortable for guests. I guess if I still chose to come, I would bring something. Something small & store bought, like a cheese tray or something. I probably wouldn't give a gift though.

Potluck weddings aren't unheard of. It should be that they are providing the main food and asking people to bring a side or dessert, NOT at all enough to feed 150, just if the local people who WANT to do it it'll be enough sides and desserts if the bride & groom fill in a little after getting their numbers. Very weird if the invites specifically said what you should bring should be a quantity thats enough for all those people.
We are having a small wedding and are considering doing a potluck a month later for the rest of the community, our wording would be "Bring a side or dessert if you'd like! If you're not much of a chef, or are traveling, just bring yourself! No gifts required." (as it wouldn't be our wedding, just a party.) I don't want anyone to feel like it's a chore to go, but I know the crowd of people we are inviting and I know a good portion of them will be relived to bake some mac n cheese or buy some cookies rather than get a gift. Not sure if we'll end up doing it, but we for sure won't be telling people to make enough food to feed 150...

That's incredibly tacky....but idk if you should show up without something since that was their request. I would choose to not go.

When in the early planning stages of a wedding, family it close friends, offer to take care of the food, and are not asked/told to, that is fine. For health reasons and practicality, B and G should not accept an offer to cook for more than 50 unless some one or more of the limited number of volunteers has worked in food preparation before, and unless all people cooking or preparing cold foods agree to work with the couple and 1-2 cook coordinators, to ensure the menu is balanced, event appropriate, and cooked, kept hot or cold til served, and served in a safe way. . . No wedding should start with the rudeness if a couple inviting people, and telling them to cook something and bring it. No group that large should bring a random assortment of foods, cooked under unkown conditions, with no one coordinating menu, or responsible for food safety. We do pot lucks sometimes in my largely agricultural community. But more than half of all households have someone who has been through Dept of agriculture trainings at least, or has been a pro Baker or cook. People use cooperative kitchens to can and sell jellies, jams, syrups, anything from their produce. They know food safety. And know how to plan quantities and menus so the finished buffet is quite planned, not 18 of one thing and nothing if another. . . . Outside of such a largely skilled community, it is too much of a responsibility to have random people in uninspected kitchens cook for so many. Most places, a permit is required, and they generally do not give them to "a whole bunch of random home cooks", as B and G would need to describe them. . . . I would refuse anyone who told me I was to do it without my having volunteered. And though I have done all food for weddings that size with 2 it her people, or a committee, I would never eat any full meal from various cooks of unknown skill or clean kitchens. And would not contribute. Because I would never want to be one if 40 cooks who managed to poison 50 of the guests at a wedding, or, simply give the diarrhea and make them vomit. . . If this invitation came as a surprise, and you never volunteered, call to see what is up. But do not accept being assigned something, because a rude couple has decided not to provide food and make guests do it. Rude, rude, rude .

View Quoted Comment I feel that way as well!

View Quoted Comment Yes a week before.

View Quoted Comment We decided to go to dinner before at a nearby restaurant.

At that point I probably wouldn’t go 😂 not sure how close you are with these people though so I’m sure not going could potentially cause a whole lot of other drama too

View Quoted Comment I am not super close. I decided to just buy French bread and garlic butter. Pretty simple I think.

Wowww, just no. I've been to one potluck wedding and that was taken care of by the bride's mom and aunts who had already volunteered. You don't ask guests to bring food to a wedding.

So were they originally having something different like buffet, etc and decided to change it? Or did they put this on invites and send them out a week before their wedding? Either way its awful.

What's funny to me is that you don't HAVE to feed people at a wedding. When I was a kid, many of the larger church weddings we went to just had appetizers, cake and beverages after the ceremony with maybe some dancing. My older sister just had cake for the 250+ people at her wedding. I did go to a wedding that was probably 75 people a few years ago. They had a dessert potluck, we all brought dessert for however many people we wanted. THAT was actually a lot of fun because the assortment was wild. But bringing food for 150 people, that's comical. It's like pushing all the catering onto the guests.

Honestly, I would still go if only to see how it plays out.

View Quoted Comment Originally catered then changed due to lack of funds maybe? Either way originally this was not the case.