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Wedding location dispute

Kate, on May 9, 2019 at 3:37 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5

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Hi! So I find myself at 3:30 am cannot sleep and crying because I don’t know where to do my wedding. We want to do a small ceremony and we are both from the same hometown in Puerto Rico. However, about a year and a half ago I moved to Florida and my fiancé will move here right after the wedding. My brothers and my niece (which is the second person I love the most after my fiancé) lives in Florida as well. My mom wants me to get married there, so does my grandma and my aunts. My fml already had issues went he proposed to me in Florida and if we do it here I know she would start a huge argument. But our budget is tight and I think the money of the ticket for me could be spent in something else plus I won’t be able to do anything only depend on my mom. Also I need my niece, who is my angel, that day and I don’t think my brother could pay 4 tickets to PR. What to do? I am so confused, stressed, sad!

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Becca · on May 9, 2019 at 5:44 AM
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I guess it comes down to what is more important to you and your fiance. It sounds to me like there is a majority of the family on your side who wouldn't be able to attend in PR. Is it that his mom would throw a fit that you are nervous or because she won't be able to attend if it is in Florida? Ultimately a) you have time and b) talk to your family. Have honest conversations. You are making a lot of assumptions without necessarily knowing all of the facts. To me it sounds like Florida is the smart option. It may not be where your heart is, but everyone in your heart will be there.
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Melissa · on May 9, 2019 at 8:34 AM
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I would do it where you are most comfortable, which seems to be in Florida. Also, it will be hard to plan a wedding that is not local to you. If I knew someone getting married, I would assume they would be getting married around where they live unless otherwise mentioned. Maybe you can do your big wedding in FL and have a vow renewal and small party for the family in PR that do not / cannot travel to FL.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 9, 2019 at 10:20 AM
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Can you consider a wedding in Florida with your families who are here, then in one year take a honeymoon in PR and have a wedding celebration with your families there? Your PR celebration can be a vow renewal or reception only, totally up you you!
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Clíodhna · on May 17, 2019 at 10:33 AM
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Hi there Liz.
I'm really sorry to hear about this situation and how torn you are.
I would second the previous poster's suggestion. Would it be possible for you to have a wedding in Florida, followed by a PR honeymoon and celebration there with your FS's family?
It may be a good time to take some time away from the wedding planning for a couple of days to relax and center yourself.
Take your time making this decision, even if it means pushing the date back.
The main thing is that you are healthy and happy and not stressed
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Kate · on July 5, 2019 at 12:54 PM
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We discussed things and we agreed on a civil small wedding on PR and then a big church wedding in FL. It’s been so stressful
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