Wedding Invites - To Invite or Not Invite

We have all seen this, where you get back an RSVP and it includes people who were not invited. It's a rude thing for guests to do, just assuming the whole family is invited. We don't always have the space or budget to invite everyone we want.

You have to ask yourself, do I have room for any extras? Is there a reason the adult children weren't invited? Is space and budget an issue? Each bride and groom's situation is different, so it's hard to advise you, not knowing the answers to these questions. Your post is also a bit confusing, because you talk about extras being included on the RSVP cards, but then you say that you sent the YA their own invitation. So, if they got their own invitation, it doesn't really matter that they included the RSVP with their parents, as all were invited in some way. Example: Aunt Mary and Uncle Joe are sent an invitation, and they have two grown kids, John and Susie, who each live on their own. You send John his own invite, and Susie too. You get one RSVP card back, from Aunt and Uncle, but it also has John and Susie's names on it, all saying they are coming. No big deal in this example, because all 4 were on your list. They just RSVPd together, instead of separately.

But if this is NOT the case for you, then you have an issue, and a decision to make. If John and Susie were not invited, and Aunt and Uncle included them on the invite, then you need to figure out if you'll be able to allow their attendance. Maybe you've already had a few "no" responses, and have some extra room. Maybe you don't. If not, politely contact Aunt and Uncle and explain that the invitation was only meant for the two of them.

Hey there Monique!

What couples typically do if they don’t want kids coming to the wedding is specify on the RSVP (using names) who was invited. I know your invitations have already gone out so it’s a bit too late for this.

I agree with Cristy’s advice here, she totally nailed it

I hope this helps you resolve the RSVP issue!

I'm with Cristy here, your post is a little confusing.. the YA were all given invites and the parents RSVP'd for them? If thats the case no big deal. But if they weren't invited then you do have issues and need to make a decision on how to address it and let additional guests and parents know far enough in advance.

I'm sorry people did that. That is super frustrating! I hope the advice shared by Cristy will help you get it all resolved