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Wedding Invite for someone who just lost their spouse?

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Angie, on August 29, 2017 at 12:08 PM

Hello. We are sending out our invitations for our early November wedding this week. A friend, who I was going to invite, lost her husband last week very unexpectedly. I am not sure if I should still send an invite, as I am afraid it may bring up sad feelings of her wedding/her husband etc, but I don't want her to think I didn't care enough to invite her. I thought about including a note that said something about how I know this is bad timing, and she has a million things on her mind, but I can't really think how to word it without it coming off super awkward. Has anyone else dealt with anything like this? Do you think I should skip the invitation all together? Thanks!

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Savvy August 2018
Shelby · on August 29, 2017 at 9:22 PM
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I second Celia's comment on inviting her plus a guest. Especially if this woman is a friend and may not know other people at the wedding, she will probably be more likely to come if she could bring a sister or friend. I had a coworker who was in this situation and she felt very uncomfortable attending a wedding after her husband died when she didn't know anyone.
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Dedicated October 2018
Nicole · on August 29, 2017 at 9:22 PM
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A similar situation happened to my friend when she was sending invites. She sent the invite to her and her daughter so that she could bring someone
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Expert August 2018
falkenmarried · on August 29, 2017 at 9:59 PM
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I second what Celia said! Send the invite without the note and give her a plus one. Its important you let her make the decision. The plus one isn't necessarily for a date but maybe a friend who can give her a little support for the day, even if its just a friend.

My mom is a widow and she likes having someone there with her even if it's not someone she is romantic with. Having someone there will be nice.

ETA: If she questions the guest, tell her she is more than welcome to bring a friend. Someone did this for my mom and although she declined the guest, she was happy she had the option.
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Super October 2017
stephanie · on August 29, 2017 at 11:03 PM
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Send the invite!
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Super November 2017
Nicole · on August 30, 2017 at 2:59 AM
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Send it!
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Nonna T · on August 30, 2017 at 8:32 AM
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I had all my invitations addressed and stamped, ready to go when my sil passed away.
I took the invitation, addressed to my brother and sil and put it in a larger envelope with a note about how we could not exclude her and she would be will us in spirit. My brother told me he appreciated it a LOT.
Hope that helps!
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