Wedding Guests - Uneven Distribution

Our guest list is uneven. He has more friends that he stayed in contact with after high school than I did. It doesn't bother me, but I definitely don't want to keep the tradition of bride's guests on one side and the groom's on the other.

My guest list is un-even. Most of our guests are his family, since this is his first marriage and this is my 3rd. I'm not planning on having sides, and I'm planning on completely mingling the tables. Gonna be no big deal.

I also had an un-even guest list. We got married in Winnipeg, less than an hour away from all of DH's friends and family. Most of my family is scattered around Mexico, and almost all of my friends live in Vancouver and the BC coast, so not many were able to fly in.

It's sweet of you to be concerned about the wedding being about him, not just about you and I'm sure he knows that and appreciates it. Don't worry about the guests - even if he only has 5 or 10 people from his side, the wedding will definitely be about both of you.

Our guest list is uneven.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. As long as the people who are super important to him are there it will be fine! Our guest list is pretty even, but it's out of town for all of my family friends and in town for all of his, so I'm sure the actual attendees will be uneven.

Our guest list is pretty uneven too, with me having less people. We are getting married in California and I grew up in Switzerland. Some friends (and some family) is coming, but definitely less than from his side. I'm ok with it because it makes it easier to have a small wedding and several uncles that I invited I'm happy that they won't be here.

Our guest list is uneven as well! I am actually looking forward to a small crowd that way we save money and just really enjoy ourselves rather than having to accommodate hundreds of people. We currently have 80 invited for a Sunday evening wedding. Both our parents isn't currently speaking to us and haven't contributed but we invited them with "if they show attitude" lol don't worry about it the most important people are you two and those who value yall friendship will be certain to make it.

Don't worry- smaller guest list is better. you will save money and heart ache about rsvp-ing. only your near and dear will be there and that's what matters at the end of the day.

Smaller IS better! Dont' worry about the uneven-ness; it's not a sign that he has no support; just the mechanics and budget of life.

Can you Skype some of them in or hire one of the services that broadcasts weddings? If you can't find one, email me and I can find out from one of my officiant friends who refers this all the time!

We're uneven, very uneven actually. Sometimes FH feels sad that he doesn't have a bigger guest list on his side, but even if all of his relatives come (which I think they are) there aren't very many of them. I don't think it's something that will matter in the end.

We're not dividing people by sides in the church.

Our guest list was uneven in terms of family, and I invited a whole bunch of friends from our neighborhood and friends we had together in Utah. What we both realized the day of is even if we counted the guest as "mine", that guest was there to celebrate us as a couple.

Our's is completely lopsided, and we're just inviting family! FH has 5 on his side, the rest is mine. Our total list is 32 people. We're going to do the "pick a seat, not a side" thing.

We are having about 100 people and it's pretty much immediate family and some friends, I have more guests than FH but he has a smaller family and we don't consider it uneven at all they are all there to celebrate US as a couple! Good luck!

FH parents are inviting less than 50 people which includes his entire family, friends, and business associates. My closest family (aunts, uncles, first cousins) accounts for 100+ people. It happens. Keep in mind the guests are there to celebrate with both of you.

Our lists are uneven as well. FH is on only child and is older than his cousins by at least ten years and didn't grow up with them. I actually grew up with my cousins, so I am closer to them. But he has more aunts and uncles than I do. It originally started out with me having way more people on the list than he did. It really isn't an issue since we are paying for things completely by ourselves.

My guest list is ridiculously uneven. He is Filipino and has a huge family and 85% of our list is his family. The rest is our friends and my family (i have a super SMALL family). A party is a party though, enjoy your day with the people that are there

Out of our guest list of 164, 67 are my side. At the end of the day his family will become my family too. As long as your FH is okay with some of his family not being there for the wedding you don't need to add on more friends.

Mine's uneven too! Believe it or not, there are more of his friends and family flying over from the UK than are coming from my family who all live within hours. 2/3 of the list is his side. Smaller really can be better too! It will be nice being close with most of the people who are there!

VMDIZZLE, if you read this....

Your wife is so lucky to have someone like you. I can see it in your posts you're a good person.

My family had 6 tables, his family had 3. His friends made up 2 tables, mine made up 1. I think it's normal to have an uneven guest list. I'm way closer to all of my family than he is so we invited my aunts, uncles and cousins, while he only invites his aunts and uncles.