Wedding Gofundme

If you can’t afford it then you shouldn’t be having it.

Have the wedding you can afford or postpone until you can afford it. Gofundme is for charities, your wedding isn’t a charity.

GoFundMe is more for disaster relief or medical expenses, in my opinion. How about having a smaller wedding in February and a large vow renewal later?

I am going to have to agree with the people above me. Not trying to be mean or anything when I say this, but if you cannot afford a wedding, then don't have one. Or postpone until you can afford it, my fiance and I waited two years and you can bet we spent those two years saving as much as we could.

I would advice against this if at all possible. You can go to the courthouse and host people afterwards for a small reception dinner or you could also postpone the wedding into you and fiancé feel you’re able to both afford the wedding without support. If you feel like you would still need the support, I would recommend each of you individually asking family members if there’s anything that they feel like they can support with for the wedding. That may be a better route than setting a go fund me page

Naw... Don’t do it. Have the wedding you can actually afford. And the GoFundMe is “just for a small amount” then cut back in just that small area.

You could also set your registry as a honeymoon or wedding fund for gifts and may be able to rectify some of the costs

I think you can attempt a GoFundMe but the people who will contribute (if at all) will only be close family members and maybe 1 or 2 close friends that are very close to the both of you and want you to be happy. Here is my advice....start calling and researching banquet halls in your area. Choose an affordable one that isn’t over $6,000 (I saw many in my area where the cheapest package ranges from $2,500- $4,000). Banquet halls include many things that will save you money later on such as the cake, food, DJ, alcohol, toast cider, etc. as long as you dont start adding too many additional things for glamour you will be fine. You can also do payment plans and book your wedding day ranging from 1 to 2 years. This way your monthly payments are cheaper and easier to manage. Also keep in mind that with website like GoFundMe they take a small portion of each donation you receive. Hope this helps!

Please don't. That sort of thing is meant for catastrophic emergencies like medical expenses, a family losing everything in a fire, etc.

You could scale back, postpone, or get part-time jobs.

I agree that a GoFundMe isn't ideal. I know that sucks to hear. Some things to consider are that it is generally bad etiquette, and I've seen wedding GoFundMes go south quick and get lots of bad social media attention & press. Also, GoFundMes like this are generally not very successful in reaching their goals. Unless you have a huge, closely knit network that are in a comfortable income bracket, many people may simply not donate.

If I were you, I would just try to work within your budget, even if that means doing something untraditional. I would talk to your FH & decide what aspects are truly important to the both of you, create a shared vision, and work within your budget to make it happen.

You can definitely still have a beautiful wedding cheaply. Try a park, a local rental hall, or a restaurant. Consider cheap catering like pasta, etc. I've seen people have gorgeous weddings for $1,000

A gofundme is for charities, not for weddings. You can make a cash registry?

So this is what I suggest elope (not in a courthouse) find a officiant for kind of cheap and get married in a chapel or a place that means something to you both. Then save some money for a "Wedding". I am doing this and everyone thinks it's awesome and are super excited. AT THE BOTTOM IS A ROUGH DRAFT AS TO WHAT WILL BE ON OUR INVITES/SAVE THE DATES!

We were going to call it just vow renewal but its more than that to us and we aren't having it be informal like most vow renewals, it will be formal just like a normal wedding. We also will be letting everyone know we aren't expecting gifts!

I actually already got married in a beautiful little chapel(due to being dual-military at the time) on July 25, 2018. Then the day after labor day we found out I was 4weeks pregnant. Our son was born in early May. Now we are planning a Vow Renewal Ceremony and Wedding Reception(to be a formal event treated like any other wedding except bachelorette/bachelor parties of course) for our 3rd anniversary, because I want my dream wedding! We couldn't do our first anniversary because I was healing from birth and next year he will be deploying sometime in late July/early August(I'm no longer in the service due to an injury so I won't deploy), so year 3 it is. We chose July 25th, partly because of try to get leave at the same time is a little hard but also because a lot of big markers in our jobs and life together happened to fall on the 25th of various months. Also my late grandmother's and step father's birthdays was/is on July 25th.
PS-if you'd like to inbox me feel free.

We would like invite you to the wedding of

Joel & Shayla VW!

This formal event will be a vow renewal ceremony & wedding reception!

To be held on our 3rd anniversary, the 25th of July 2021!

Sorry for the super long comment.

GFM is for emergency uses. Your wedding is NOT an emergency. Yeah...I've seen dumber causes be represented on there, but also they get zero contributions or get shut down pretty quickly.
Have the wedding you can afford. If it's just for a small amount, why not push your date back a little to be able to come up with that difference yourself?

We're having an 18 month engagement in order to be able to save enough money to have the wedding we want. Don't do a go fund me. You're supposed to be the host. Asking people for money to host is basically saying "Hey I need you to pay for yourself to come to my wedding!" Big no no.

No offense, but I think that’s tacky. That’s not what go fund me was created for. If you are planning a wedding, set a budget and stick to your budget or wait to get married and save. It’s not other people’s responsibility to contribute to your wedding. Just my opinion.

I strongly suggest against it. As many mentioned - your wedding is not an emergency nor a charity. There's not a need for someone to donate to your wedding. Also, I don't think that's something you should really want. Weddings are already enough stress with unsolicited opinions. Imagine the gossip you'd hear about posting a gofundme for your wedding.

Some suggestions include:

Postponing your wedding to save.

Asking parents or in-laws.

Getting a second or side job.

Staying within your budget and what you can afford.

Seeing where you can cut costs.

I hope this helps.

Don't do it. We are paying for the wedding ourselves so I understand the stress in how much everything costs & how quickly it adds up. Come up with other ways to make money. Give yourselves time to save money. Have the wedding you can afford. If you want to ask for contributions from your families, I'd ask them inidividually not through a website.

I agree with all the previous responders.
Specifically, GoFundMe is for charity and emergency relief. Your wedding is neither of these things.
In my area, stag & doe's are really common. These are essentially wedding fundraisers. I personally think they are tacky and refuse to do one or even attend one (unless I'm in the bridal party and pretty much have to). That being said, it's really common practice here. Depending on your area, I suppose you could look into that instead (but that's definitely a know your social circle kind of thing).