Wedding gift from bridesmaid

I don't think you're a jerk. She understands the financial commitments you made for her day and probably valued your presence and help more than just your money!

Honestly as a BM I give a little bit less. From buying the attire, helping out with shower/bachelorette party costs, traveling and paying for hotel rooms, to buying a shower and wedding gift, it adds up really fast. I feel bad giving less but I do the best I can.

You weren't a jerk. You gave her what you could afford to give her, as well as the gift of your time. I wouldn't worry about it.

I will be surprised if I get a gift from my BMs. They are all travelling a long way to come to the wedding, and I am just thrilled we can all be together! I think your small gift was probably plenty

I won't expect anything from my bridesmaids especially gift wise and I feel like that's normal but I just wanted to make sure I wasn't the odd one on it

This happened to me last year. I couldn't give as extravagantly as I normally would because I was a BM. I felt very guilty, but the bride never, ever made me feel like less of a friend. I was there for her for the parties and events and that was what meant the most to her. I am sure she understood (as I will with her, because she's now a BM in my wedding!) that the presence of her friend as support for her big day was a great gift, and anything else was an unexpected - but appreciated - bonus.

I think you did just fine. You do what you can afford in my opinion. I personally am a very generous gift giver so when I have been a bridesmaid I spend a significant amount but we are in the financial position to do so.

I actually asked my bridesmaids not to get me anything because of how much they're committing already. I wouldn't be the least bit offended if I didn't receive anything. And as a close friend, I certainly wouldn't want someone to shell out money they didn't have because they felt they needed to get a bigger gift.

Anyone who is a close enough friend to have you as a BM shouldn't care what kind of gift they get from you (if anything). I'm in the same boat as Lindsey, my party is traveling from all over so I'm just thrilled they will be able to get there.

I gave a small gift to my best friend and she told me numerous times that I didn't even have to get her anything because of all we had done for her throughout the process. I would not expect anything from mine.

I think you're totally fine. Being in a wedding has never motivated us to give more (if we're closer to someone, we'll usually include a more personal physical gift) and, considering what you contributed leading up to the wedding, it's understandable to give less. I wouldn't stress about it.

I actually don't expect a gift from my BMs at all.

I know they've spent a good deal of money on their dresses, my shower, and bachelorette coming up, as well as all of the other "day of" costs they will have. I would never expect them to give a gift on top of all of that so don't worry about it at all!

I flew out of state twice, bought the dress, bought the shoes, bought the gift bags for b-party, bought a shower gift, bought a hotel room, and gave a $100 gift. No thank you card. Whelp!

Not at all.

As much as I'm trying to keep costs way down for my BMs, I don't even want them to get me anything for a gift.

I wouldn't expect anything. I gave a $30 gift to a friend who's wedding I was in instead of the typical $50-$100 here. We are all recently out of college (under 2 years) and like you said, between showers, bach, and attire, it adds up.

MY 2 friend BMs each gave me a small personalized item (one personalized wine glasses and one a personal sign) and I loved them! Another was my brother and SIL, they gave us cash but I didn't expect it! 2 other GMs gave us cash, but same thing, didn't expect it.

I agree with the others, as I don't think it is expected to receive a gift from the bridal party. A small gift is completely fine. I am in three weddings coming up so I have talked to the others in each wedding party and we are going to go in on a gift. Makes more sense, as we can give her something from all of us. Something more personal and we are spending a lot to take part of the special day so by chipping in we can give her something perfect without spending a lot - one we are giving handmade jewelry from an amazing artist who creates it from paper and the other two we are having their wedding dress sketched and framed. Again I hope the brides don't expect a gift at all and what we give them is a surprise.

Definitely not a jerk! My BM's have gone above and beyond anything I probably would have done myself (not that I would have thrown my own shower). The way I see it is that their gift to me is being by my side through the whole process! Now that I'm less than a month away from my wedding I'm totally stressed and they are my rocks (well besides FH)!