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Becca C-B
Savvy September 2018

Wedding dress shopping, not as fun as it seems! (Just a little vent)

Becca C-B, on September 6, 2017 at 5:55 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17
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So I was really excited about FINALLY shopping for my wedding dress (I have been engaged since December). I thought it would be so awesome to try on all these pretty dresses and it would just be relaxing and I would find "the one". Turns out, its pretty stressful! Trying to decide if you like dress A more than dress B, but what about dress C, and dress D had this detail I liked but not this one. Its crazy!

Anyway, I did not end up picking a dress while I was at the places, but I am pretty sure I have found the one after sleeping on it (although my sleep was disturbed by images of lace and tulle wrapping me in a cocoon and slowly suffocating me). Going to one more store that had some dresses I liked, then probably make a decision! So if you haven't done your dress shopping, don't freak out if you don't pick your dress while you are at the store. Going home and contemplating can be a really good thing!

Anyone else have any funny insights into their dress shopping experiences?

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Latest activity by SmileyBride, on September 7, 2017 at 6:37 AM
  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
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    It was quite overwhelming and tiring. Getting in and out of dresses and taking pictures to remember which one was which.

    I ended up putting together a Board to help me. (1) My Mom to keep he budget in check; (2) My sister who is brutally honest about how I look in things; (3) My sister's friend who was a bridal consultant. My sister's friend would ask me what I liked or did not like about a dress and helped me to find the one I loved.

    I should add my seven year old niece and her BFF were also in tow for pure laughter. Everything looked flowery or shiny to them or they hated it. I even tried on some of their pics for a good laugh.

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  • Julie
    VIP April 2018
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    It was definitely overwhelming. I didn't get as emotional over my pick like they dramatize on tv. I knew my dress was the one when I started trying more dresses on and kept comparing it to the one I picked. Good for you for walking away- I feel like too many are pressured into picking something and then have dress regret. I kind of wish I would have done one more visit but I do love my dress.

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  • Rebecca
    Super October 2017
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    Wedding dress shopping was one of the worst experiences of my life, so OP I completely understand. I not only nitpicked everything, I also am a curvy girl and having to squeeze into a sample size and have people tell you it will look fine when it is your size isn't a confidence booster.

    I was finally able to find the dress I was looking for and didn't have the "moment" till it was here and in my size. That was after trying on nearly 100 dresses.

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  • Candace
    Devoted October 2017
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    My first time shopping, I started my cycle!!! OMG, I felt like a giant blob. Everything I tried on I hated! It was horrible and I felt horrible. I went to three different shops.

    I made a second appointment two weeks later, and tried on the same dresses and loved almost all of them. I'm sure I looked exactly the same, but felt so much better.

    Now, I'm dealing with the worst dress regret! I'm not sure if I should have listened to other's opinions. Sigh.. I'm 25 days out, so it's too late now.

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  • Leila
    Super October 2017
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    Buying a dress IRL is nothing like "say yes to the dress"... it's better not to have expectations going into the process

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  • Heartbweeps
    Super October 2017
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    I realized how much I hated the sight of me in white gowns. I was alone so it was a fairly lonely experience. I ended up just buying one online and falling in love when I had it on me.

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  • M
    Dedicated September 2017
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    I bought the 4th dress I tried on because it made me cry. I was over trying on dresses and didn't even go into the store with the slightest idea I would buy a dress that day. Totes made the right choice though! I get it back next week after last minute alterations! So glad I picked it that day though because I was over it when I was taking the first dress off... totally feel you haha

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  • Hannah
    Super June 2018
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    I can completely relate! I went to my first appointment with my mom and MOH had an amazing experience knew I found my dress. My mom wanted me to try on more dresses so I agreed. The second appointment I went home and cried because they commented on my weight because I told them what size the other place measured me at and I could hear them talking about it. The third place had the best selection however I was still focused on the other dress. I was almost ready to buy a dress when the woman asked if in front of the entire store if I planned to lose weight and what works for her. My mom was livid. I've gained weight due to health issues but my weight is mostly in my belly. I bought a dress then two weeks later begged them to let me order a different dress and I finally ended up with my dream dress!

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  • Stacey
    Super October 2018
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    I went to a shop that was in the same building as the first apartment FH and I shared (a place I LOVE) and found The Dress after trying on around 6 or 7. I cried, I went out with my sister and celebrated, I went to bed, and then I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic. I went over budget, I look fat, the veil makes my butt look big, I am going to look hideous...full blown panic attack. Ultimately, I made the right decision, but I could have came to that conclusion a lot calmer had I went home and slept on it like you did! Good call!

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  • Joanna
    Devoted December 2017
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    I loved it, but I felt like it was in the pit crew of a Nascar race. Slip into dress 1, show the family, reject it, out of dress 1 and right into dress 2 and so on. It can be disheartening if you don't like any of them. Luckily I found one that I love and was able to get a great deal on it too.

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  • NeLeibelToBe
    Devoted June 2018
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    I got a consultant that was obsessed with mermaid dresses..which was not at all what I wanted. I told her ball gown or A line going in but I was open to try anything on. The mermaid wasn't as bad as I thought it would be it was not what I wanted. After telling her this she brought me 4 more mermaids........my sister actually pulled my dress and on the hanger I didn't think I liked it either but I was ready to put in anything other than a mermaid! Turned out to be my dress! I tried on a couple more after just to ensure I wasn't just picking the first NOT mermaid!

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  • Jennifer
    Super May 2018
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    I felt so awkward. Like I was at a beauty pageant and my friends were judging me. I think I even said "I don't know what to do with my hands!" Lol

    I liked components of all the dresses but not enough to love any of them. I ordered a dress I've been eyeing online and if I don't like it, I'll go back to the stores lol

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  • Vanessa
    Super November 2017
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    I made sure I didn't try so many. I told the lady exactly what I wanted and she brought me my dream dress Smiley smile I was so close to trying on more but I talked myself out of it.

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  • Jesca
    Dedicated March 2018
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    I feel yah! I tried on so many dresses and was getting super stressed that I wasn't finding exactly what I wanted. This dress would be perfect if I changed that, that dress would be perfect with that adjustment. The three different bridal shops I went to in Arizona said they could make all these crazy adjustments. My mom kept telling me I would find my dress. I didn't believe her and thought I should just settle.

    I went dress shopping in my home town that had dresses from a different designer I hadn't tried on. Found the most amazing dress and finally understood what my mom was talking about.

    Try going by yourself. It may change the whole perspective of dress shopping.

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  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
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    Joanna hit it spot on. A Nascar feel.

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  • NinjaBride
    Super June 2018
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    I had a good experience in one store but was mostly going to get my feet wet. Hated everything I tried on in davids bridal and felt like the consultant wasn't really hearing what I didn't like about each dress she kept putting me in a line when I said I wanted to try other silhouettes. Then put me back in the one I hated least at the end to try to get a sale. I ended up buying a dress someone was selling on Facebook and I love it.

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  • SmileyBride
    Expert October 2017
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    Dress shopping was stressful for me. I gained a lot of way in the last year or so. So I was already a little anxious. Dressing in general is hard soDress after dress I was feeling worse and worse. And then my mom made them try a different style on me. And then it all clicked. But afterward the dress regret hit. I am still a little nervous about my dress!! And I couldn't go into a dress shop after I picked mine it would make me doubt everything. I went with my FMIL to get her dress and had a panic attack when I looked around at ladies in dresses it made me fearful I made a wrong choice. It was not fun!

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