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Just Said Yes December 2020

Wedding dress second-guess!!??

Catherine, on March 2, 2020 at 11:03 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 3

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So I have a lot of anxiety and other mental health issues that cause extreme obsessive thinking. I recently bought a dress that was considerably outside my budget and I'm now second-guessing my choice. I felt rather overwhelmed and rushed (even though my appointment was an hour and a half) when at the bridal shop and my bridesmaids were hesitant to share their opinions to spare my overthinking brain and just let me make the choice that felt right. But in hindsight, I bought something beautiful that I'm not overly afraid that I really didn't want. I have 14 days to return/exchange it but the idea of going back and looking at new dresses makes me feel ashamed. I feel like I shouldn't invite my bridesmaids this time because its inconvenient for them and I don't want them to feel like I wasted their time. But if I go alone and pick a new dress, I don't want them to feel insulted or left out. So now I don't know what to do and as much as I tried to organize my feelings and thoughts on the matter, I just keep spiraling in stress-filled circles.

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on March 4, 2020 at 8:59 AM

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Melle · on March 2, 2020 at 11:27 PM
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Do you have like this feeling that maybe there’s a different dress out there that COULD be better? One of the things people suggest is not to look at other gowns anymore cause it could be dress envy since you said you do find yours beautiful. Or are you worried that it’s outside of your budget and if that was a good choice to have done?
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Don · on March 3, 2020 at 9:07 AM
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Hi Catherine,
Being a bride to be is SO stressful, don't make it worse on yourself by agonizing over your dress, we all have some degree of dress regret, I think it's perfectly okay for you to go back alone and exchange your dress if that's what's in your heart, it's YOUR day, can you picture walking down the aisle in your dress? If not, then yes, you should choose another! I tried on about 40 before I found " the one " and I still wonder if I made the right choice, my wedding is Feb. 2021, the first dress is my wedding dress, the second was my runner up!
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Clíodhna · on March 4, 2020 at 8:59 AM
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Welcome to the WeddingWire community, Catherine.
Firstly, don't feel ashamed. You have 14 days to change your mind. You're definitely not the first bride who has gone through this and found themselves second guessing their choice. Try not to feel so guilty and be kinder to yourself.
Would you consider speaking with your bridesmaids about how you feel? You can tell them that you're considering going back again for a second look and you would rather do it alone? Assure them you value their opinions and appreciate them coming with you originally, however, you feel this is something you have to do alone to figure out if this is indeed the dress for you. If these are your closets friends and family members, I'm sure they will understand you and support your decision.
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