Wedding dress remorse?

I had it and I dealt with it by exchanging dresses. I am so glad I did. I loved looking at my original dress but didn't see a picture of myself in my dress until after I had bought it and I HATED how i looked.

I most certainly did NOT cry when I bought my dress - I just don't get emotional over clothing, but I do really love my dress. My BFF burst into tears, my dad cried, but I just stood there.

If you're not going to get another one - there's no real way to deal with it other than put your dress back on and try to remember all the things you liked about it and made you purchase it in the first place!

If you know you are going to have to use that dress then just own it and accept it and try and love it like you did initially, don't let it bother you now! There's enough to worry about as it is

I think wedding dress remorse is pretty common. The entire wedding dress buying process seems designed to create it:

1. There is this huge mystique built up about finding "The One." Seriously? I can be pleased that a dress looks good on me, but I don't cry about it or have some transcendental experience over it.

2. You don't try on the actual dress you are buying. Thus, you're having to imagine how it will look, instead of actually seeing how it will look.

3. There is often a long gap between trying it on and receiving it. In the interim, you may gain or lose weight, change shape, or just develop different tastes.

If the dress is beautiful, then stop worrying about the lack of crying.

I had this same experience, I didnt cry, I was more excited... The first dress I put on I was like I love it, it looks pretty on me.. and it fit my body good... I tried on like 5 more dresses and none of them were as good as the first one, and I told myself I wasnt gonna be one of those people that went in and tried on a million dresses and be like no, I dont like this or I dont like that! So I put the first one back on and said Yes to the dress but since then I have looked at other brides dresses and watch say yes to the dress and wonder if I should have bought a different dress... but then again I tell myself I have lots of different taste, so I like the dress I bought and it looks good on me and its all about saying I do to the one I love! Thats the end of that second dress guessing Love the dress you got if you like it and it looks good on you!

I didn't cry either, but I'm not the crying type. Though I did walk away from my dress and then couldn't stop thinking about it which I then went back and tried others on and ended up with it anyways. I bought it off the rack (was my intention to get a deal on a dress). Do I see dress posts on here or dresses and stores and think about them vs my own? Of course. And there's probably hundred of dresses that would look better on me than the one I ended up with but you could drive yourself mad thinking about the what if's. We usually pick our dresses for a reason, and as long as they're good ones (not because other people/consultants told you to, etc) you have to think about why and run with it. I think it's helpful to have a picture of yourself in your dress that you really like hidden away. That way you can peek at it every once in a while to remind yourself how good you look

YES! Currently have dress stress. Since the night I bought my dress I felt like I chose the wrong one. I should have bought the one I originally liked. It was half the price and I felt beautiful in it even though everyone with me agreed the one I bought was "the one". The photo of me in it is horrible. Photos of it online are horrible and it makes me think it doesn't photograph well. Either way, I too am stuck with the one I have purchased. Hopefully when it comes in I will feel differently. Until then- I'll left to wonder if I made one of the most expensive mistakes of my life!

I'm so sorry you feel the same way as I do. On the other hand, I am relieved to know I am not the only one.

Do you have a picture of you in it? I'd like to see it, I bet it's beautiful!

I didn't cry when I found mine. It was fantastic, but I had the "I want to see what else there is" mode and tried on some others. Then I went back to the one I ended up buying.

After it was purchased, I had a little bit of "Is that really the right dress??? Did I not try on enough? Should I have gone to other stores?"

But then my dress came in and I tried it on in MY size.....and I feel in love all over again.

So don't worry....you're a normal bride!

I got a little teary eyed with the dress I tried on last week.. I didn't think I would since I had tried on quiet a few and liked several but nothing.... My main thing I was looking for though, wasn't tears but that feeling of I like this dress it's my dress. It's what I can see me walking down the isle in. Luckily, I haven't bought the dress because I can't yet. At first I was like yep, that's the one and then it hit me pretty quick to of is it? So I am going to keep looking anyways... I don't want to purchase it until I really feel I know and even then I bet I still will be like is it the right dress? lol I think the comment by 2d is right I think it's all the build up that just makes you second guess?

I didn't cry, at all, but I was just like "Man, I think this might be it" I had also tried on like a bunch of others and just kept coming back to it. I didn't have a "moment" though, you may feel awesome about it once you get to try it on again.

I didn't cry, but I kept wanting to put the dress back on. Unfortunately, my mother hates the dress, so now I'm back at square one.

I did not cry. It was the first dress I put on, and I knew it was it. But, I still spent the rest of the day looking and nothing compared. I also kept thinking that my fiancé will LOVE this dress. It also wasn't the style I originally planned on. Anytime I have doubts, I put it on and I still feel pretty in it every time.

I didn't cry when I first tired on my dress. I cried at my fitting.

I started all this with what I thought was a clear vision of what I wanted, and it has been anything but.

since it looks like we are going to have our much wanted horse carriage ride about a week before the wedding, I decided to have 2 dresses. one for the ceremony and one for the carriage ride.

I was going to make both. I still might, but I stumbled across a dress for 50 dollars today. I realized that the buttons on it alone would cost me 1/2 the dress price, and that I can alter the dress to fix, and make changes to it to make it the way I'd like.

figured it would save me some work.

I figured that if nothing else, it could be a 'back up dress' near ready to wear in my closet just in case. I figured the 50 was worth the peace of mind (I've given myself hives over wedding stress and not having a dress yet) I looked at my dress in what looked like a white garbage bag on the handle bar on the light rail and the way home&had a panic attack!cont...

cont: afraid that I was going to LOOK like a discounted consignment dress (no one else has even worn it), afraid that my making changes to it would ruin it, I had every worry in the book!

afraid that I'd cost myself some wonderful Klienfelds 'say yes to the dress moment' and possible ruined everything.

I'm going to leave the dress in the closet for the next few days since I have other wedding stuff to take care of, breath deeply and then take a look at it.

I'm sure I'll think it's very pretty then.

though no matter what, it will still be needing my magic touches to 'jack it up' and make it the dress I envision. I"m totally confident I can do so!

there's SO much pressure to pick a dress that no only makes us cry, but is in our budget, fits our venues and will make the whole planet happy!

no wonder we get bent out of shape about it!

sheesh!

I took my dress out of the closet today and decided, this isn't a bad dress, it just needs some of my couture touches to it.

worked on stitching it here and there to get it to fit better, and I'm falling in LOVE with it!

I've decided to call it a vintage dress re-designed!

I think that sometimes it just takes a little touch & a different outlook.

how many times have they shown a bride on Say Yes to the dress that thought she didn't want her original dress anymore, and it turned out that all she needed to do was come back and take a second look in a new light?

I didn't cry. I did that girly dreamy sighing thing, and couldn't stop twirling or looking at myself in the mirror, so I knew it was right for me.

Thank you ladies so much. I do feel better and look at the dress everyday and love it. Most importantly, the day is about marrying the man I love and not the dress. But thank you to everyone for responding to my question and giving honest and helpful advice.

Your experience is mine exactly! I hope once my dress is fitted that I will love it more. In the meantime, I'm stressed out about it. I'm so relieved it's not just me experiencing this. In all fairness, I had major buyer's remorse when I bought my first new car. 2 years later, I love my car and don't regret buying it. Hopefully this too shall pass.