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wedding Disaster!

Bianca, on April 23, 2018 at 3:10 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 52
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I'm not sure where to put this...
But my wedding was a disaster.

I invited 120 ppl. 98 ppl RSVP GOING.
20 ppl (if that showed up).

All the money. Planning, time doing,diy projects...and nothing.

Most of the guest lives in the area. There was no bad weather. No sickness. No explanation. No apology. NOTHING.

I'm,talking people who drove me crazy during the planning process to have special accommodations still didn't come.
My husband's parents didn't come....only one called. Everyone else acted like it didn't even happen.
Dj(friend of,mine) faked sick and bailed on me. And posted on Facebook he played another event same day.
Weddings are EXPENSIVE. Emotionally exhausting. And THIS was so not ok.

I know it sounds cliche. But my husband and i haven't done ANYTHING to,ANYONE for this to make sense.
We are so hurt.

52 Comments

Latest activity by MaltedMilk, on April 24, 2018 at 7:30 PM
  • M&M Bride
    Super September 2018
    M&M Bride ·
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    I am so sorry that such a large number of guests no showed to the wedding. The bright side is that you are married to the love of your life, congratulations on that! I can't imagine a parent just deciding to skip their kids wedding. Have you talked to your husband's parents since to find out what happened?

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  • Future Louie
    Super August 2019
    Future Louie ·
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    I'm so sorry you went through all of that. That's extremely hurtful of your guests to do, especially the ones you both are extremely close to.

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  • Kaylyn
    Super May 2019
    Kaylyn ·
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    I’m so sorry this happened!
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  • Donna
    Dedicated November 2019
    Donna ·
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you guys. I wish you all the best in your marraige though.
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  • Pegs
    VIP July 2018
    Pegs ·
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    Wow, I don't even know what to say. I'm so sorry.

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  • M
    Dedicated April 2018
    Moriah ·
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    I am so so sorry! I can't imagine.

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
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    I'm SO sorry. Nobody deserves that.

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  • BrandiWeds18
    VIP May 2019
    BrandiWeds18 ·
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    Wow, thats disheartening but at the end of the day you are married. I'd be pretty angry with all those who RSVP'd then didn't show. To be honest i'd really want to say something, but at the same time not even worry about it and make a mental note on how people treated you. I can't imagine them not showing and not telling you why. Thats also a lot for nothing to have occurred. so sorry.

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  • Stephanie
    Super June 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    I am so sorry you experienced this! It is very unfair and unfortunate. As a person who is planning a wedding for 80-100 guests, I would have to experience that! I pray you find peace and comfort in your heart.
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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    I keep trying to think of something to tell you and I have no words.

    Has he spoke to his parents?

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
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    Are you sure nothing else happened behind that scenes that caused this??? I am just shocked.

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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    Wow! I can't even begin to imagine. I'm so sorry.

    Its bad enough that your guests didn't show up but, for FH's parents not to show up is just mind-boggling. Did he have a good relationship with them prior to this? Did they make any indication that they weren't planning to attend or didn't support the relationship? This just sounds crazy to me.

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  • Terri
    Savvy October 2019
    Terri ·
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    Oh goodness. I am so very sorry. That is hurtful. :-(
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  • Dolores Umbridge
    VIP June 2017
    Dolores Umbridge ·
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    Did you have a contract with the dj?

    i mean, it all sucks, but you're married and that's what the day was about
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  • Mrs.Whooooo
    Master May 2017
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    I’m sorry this happened!

    can you tell us about what went right?
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  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
    BB-H ·
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    The silver lining is that you're married at the end of the day. You have each other through all of this.

    I wouldn't wish this kind of start on anyone's new marriage. I'm sorry for the difficulties you faced on your wedding day, Bianca, and I wish you two the best of luck in your lives together. Hopefully, things go up from here.

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  • BB-H
    VIP September 2018
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    This! Let's hear about the good stuff OP! I'm sure there were things that went right for you!

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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    I'm so very sorry. I would be very hurt.

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  • B
    Savvy April 2018
    Bianca ·
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    They all literally told us 2 days before.
    2 for reasons we can't understand.
    And the other was hiding health issues. But still drove us crazy about accommodations knowing they were sick.
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    Bianca ·
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    It wasn't a contract. He was a friend who was gifting us his services for free.
    And only told us he wasn't coming the night before when,we called him to,confirm,arrival time.
    He said he his sickle was bothering him.,then went on Facebook to brag about doing anpther party same day,despite being,sick
    Otherwise we wouldn't have known.
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