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Just Said Yes May 2021

Wedding day horror story

Bride, on April 12, 2021 at 9:59 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 7

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Well Last Saturday was our big day and while every vender was amazing, I ended our night early and spent the night crying in the bathroom. The weekend started off with my in laws getting mad that my fiancé was paying for the rehearsal dinner (his choice) even though they didn’t have to pay a dime the whole time (and they aren’t short on cash). My fiancé’s best man couldn’t come cause he was in the hospital and my best friend couldn’t come cause her son was in the hospital (totally understandable). Well we invited about 200 people, with 115 sending back their attending rsvp’s. We had 24 names in the guest book (so probably 50 people there plus the bridal party). Completely sickening. And on top of that most of them didn’t show until after the ceremony (so to enjoy the free food and open bar), and we had 5 cards in the box with no presents (4 from my family). Not only did no one show up, it was obvious many of the ones that did came for the free stuff, and then my entire in law family didn’t get us a single thing. Now it’s not about the monetary aspect, a card with no money or anything would’ve been the point. I want nothing to do with the pictures or memories cause I am so sad about how much money and work my family put into my wedding, and there’s nothing I can do about it. Of course I’m happy to be married to my husband now but it breaks my heart how no one cared to come. And we had to cancel our honeymoon even so that he could work as he owns his own business with his dad and his dad said he needed to work this week and not be gone. How do I get over this day that was supposed to be so special?

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Dj Tanner · on April 12, 2021 at 10:30 AM
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First off I’m sorry to hear that. It’s 2021, and it seems as though people sometimes forget what respect is and how to act appropriately. That’s quite a bit of people to RSVP back yes, and then pull a no-show. Can you think of any reason why? Like were there any Covid requirements that were sprung on guests or anything like that? I agree with you that it is so incredibly disrespectful to miss the ceremony, and then show up for the open bar and free food. Unless someone tells you, hey I have previous obligations so I may unfortunately miss your ceremony, but I will definitely be there for the reception if that’s OK, that is completely understandable in my book. But to not say anything and simply just show up as if it’s a random party is so rude. As far as the whole no one giving you gifts thing. Did you have a registry? We don’t plan on doing registry for personal reasons, however if you didn’t give people any indication that you didn’t want things and they didn’t even put a card in a box, that’s ridiculous. How incredibly uncouth in every way. Are there any people in particular that you were very surprised by? Are you surrounded by people that may come from communities that may not have been experienced to wedding etiquette before?
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Maggie · on April 12, 2021 at 12:05 PM
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I'm sorry you had so many no-shows and such a disappointing time. I truly hope that, in time, you can be able to look back at your wedding and remember the good parts, for your own sake!
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Monica · on April 12, 2021 at 2:49 PM
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Aw Im so sorry especially to be expecting 100+ ppl and then less than half show up. Unfortunately we have people in our friends family that do this all the time (birthday parties, bridal shower, baby showers) They say yes I will be there, of course we cant wait, even a few days before the event! Party day rolls around and guess what, they dont show.

People do not understand how stressful it is to plan a wedding and be relying on the guest count, unless they have been in the same situation. Despite all of these big let downs, I hope you still enjoyed yourself a little bit.
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Heather · on April 12, 2021 at 4:27 PM
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Oh no! I'm so sorry hun Do you think it could've been because of COVID? It's been a tough year in 2020 and has even led into 2021.. People lost their jobs, homes, etc. Maybe those who did RSVP didn't know what would happen to them later down the road :/ Some could be really struggling right now and just haven't said anything. But that's just me! I always try to put myself in other people's shoes.

And know that your feelings are valid!!! So, I also see where you are coming from too because of all the extra money that just went to waste But TRY your best to look at the good things that happened. Even if they were the small things. How beautiful you looked in your dress. How you felt walking down the isle as you caught your husband's eye. When you had your first dance. Etc. And just know that you did this for YOU and YOUR husband. This was about YOU and not THEM!
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Scandalousrandallous · on April 12, 2021 at 5:25 PM
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The people who no-showed and the people who showed up just for the free stuff are revolting and Iʻm sorry they were involved in your life at all. Youʻre amazing for remembering that itʻs about you and your husband, but once all this dust settles, do some reflecting on these relationships as I would not only be extremely hurt, but also feel really disrespected. Can you do a mini-moon or a weekend getaway soon?
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Jules · on April 13, 2021 at 9:57 AM
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Let's see some photo's, girl! Share them when you are ready! I want to see your dress and how beautiful I bet everything was!
Some people are just awful. Do NOT let them take this day of love from you. They are NOT worth it. Also, maybe never speak to them again, if possible (like if they aren't family). That's just me. I would be polite and cordial if I saw them in public.. but don't except a christmas card, a text or any time spent with me and my future husband. "When people show you who they truly are, believe them." You are SOOOO allowed to be sad but let us cheer you up! I bet you put a lot of work into this wedding and you know we will all appreciate the effort you guys went through! Sending you a huge hug!
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nikki · on August 31, 2021 at 2:27 PM
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We invited 74 guests, 11 of that was our wedding party, so that meant we would of only had around 63 guests watching the wedding. Well 17 people who RSVP No showed. So total guests with the wedding party totaled only 57 guests in all.. So many empty tables and chairs. Only 46 guests sitting watching the wedding. Sometimes I feel like we could of saved our money and just had it at a park or one of my families big backyard. But the wedding was beautiful. I had amazing pictures and videos. So many wanted to come but couldn't because we were trying to keep the numbers low due to Covid. A simple few days noticed would of allowed me to invite others. It hurts, I am sure I will get over it eventually..
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