Wedding day guilt?

View Quoted Comment Thank you for posting. I feel the same way. It’s now a year later for you. Has it gotten any better? Did any memories come back? How’d you deal with letting go of anger?

View Quoted Comment I have these same feelings. I just had my wedding 2 days ago, and I am having a hard time with it. I feel bad because my now husband sees me cry, feel sad, and feel guilty when I should be so happy that we are married! I am happy these feelings are just so strong because I try so hard to remember. I wanted to comment on this because my husband and I did take a few times to just be with each other alone and not that it wasn’t great when that happened but I don’t know if it helped because my brain was in so many different places. I’m so glad I’m not alone🩷

I just had my wedding this past weekend and I had a total of 2 drinks at my reception and I only remember bits and pieces of it (like maybe 15 minutes total out of the 4 hours). I wasn't drunk at all, but I was so incredibly overwhelmed that it felt like time was moving at a speed I couldn't comprehend. I keep looking back at pictures trying to remember what I was even doing during the whole reception, and I feel so much guilt and regret for things I didn't get to do and people I didn't get to talk to. I feel like I didnt even really get to hang out that much with my closest friends and family because I was so in my head and just wondering around the reception watching everyone else hang out, feeling like I was watching from the "outside" so to speak. I'm really glad I'm not alone in this, and that its somewhat normal, but also sad that I didn't know ahead of time that this might happen and to just enjoy the moment and be more mindful about engaging with friends, taking pictures, eating, and dancing with people! Also I feel like I should have spent more time with my husband at the reception to feel more grounded, but we split up almost immediately to cover more ground, see more people, ect, which I think has its benefits, but I also wish we had spent more time together talking to people. Bottom line is, you won't be able to do everything, no matter how hard you try, especially with the more people you have at the wedding (I had 100 and while it felt small, it still was too many to spend time with everyone), so decide ahead of time whats MOST important to you during the reception, and assign friends to make sure that its happening! For example, if dancing is your priority, makes sure your friends know ahead of time to pull you on the dance floor throughout the night. If spending time with everyone there is important to you, make sure you and your husband have a game plan to visit all the tables during dinner, or announce to friends and family during toasts that you want everyone to come say hello and take a pic with you at the photo booth, whatever it is just make sure you make a plan ahead of time on how to deal with the reception and extremely limited time you will have to engage with everyone and party. Good luck y'all!