This is kind of a dumb question but.. do grooms know that it’s a thing to exchange gifts the morning of the wedding? Is this something that people typically do or just something I’ve seen on Pinterest? lol.. I feel like it’s a weird thing to bring up to him, I would never want to come across like “do you know you’re supposed to get me a gift” but I do want to get him something nice for our big day!
I got my fiancé a total surprise gift and I’ll write a letter. I was assuming he’d get me something because he had mentioned having his aunt design jewelry for me...but that was like a year ago and he hasn’t mentioned it since. He doesn’t do surprises so the likelihood of him planning something secretly is very low. I’m not expecting anything in return but I would really like the letter. He doesn’t express his emotions often and never through cards or anything so this would mean so much to me.
I honestly never heard of this until coming onto this board. I personally didn't want to exchange gifts si xe we had already put so much into the wedding/honeymoon. I jokingly told my husband a out exchanging gifts, and his response was "that's stupid. Isn't the whole wedding and honeymoon a gift for us?" which was exactly my sentiment lol.
If you really want to exchange small gifts, just bring it up. You're getting married to each other. Something like bringing his attention to a gift exchange tradition/trend/whatever shouldn't be a big deal to bring up with a person you're planning to share the rest of your life with.
This is a new thing. Long term, couples have the engagement and wedding rings, and often trinkets or mementos from their honeymoon. But bride and groom giving each other gifts, bridesmaid proposal gifts, and gifts for parents, and gifts of robes and such for getting ready, are all recent trends, heavily promoted by advertisers, Pinterest, articles in wedding mags and sites. But they are not a traditional , widespread thing, so groom may not be expecting an exchange of gifts with you .
I don't think this is common in reality. I told my husband and he looked at me in shock and asked, "Isn't the wedding our gift to each other?" And I agreed. Right then and there we agreed we would not exchange gifts.
If you want something from your FH, then yes, you should bring it up because I doubt he is even thinking about this. In fact, this will be generally true for your married life too. Communicate directly what you want and don't hint because guys don't pick up on hints.
We're giving each other smallish things when we pass out gifts at the rehearsal dinner, and then I'll leave him a letter when I leave to get ready the morning of the wedding. I personally love giving gifts, so I liked the idea of getting him something. I came upon the opportunity to get a rare bottle of bourbon from the distillery where we're getting married, so he's getting that plus a pen I made from a bourbon barrel stave that we can use to sign our marriage license, and I also got him a tie patch with a pictures of me and our dog. The tie patch was small enough that I wasn't going to mention gifts, and the pen was something we'd at least both use on the wedding day, but once I got the bourbon I told him I was getting him something, and he could either get me something or not - it didn't matter either way for me.
This is something that I have heard of and I did mention it to my FH and he was completely unaware so I am glad I did mention it to him because I wouldn't want him to feel bad if I gave him something and he had nothing for me. I didn't approach it as, "You're supposed to give me a gift" but more like " we are supposed to exchange gifts the morning of". It's not supposed to be anything expensive, especially after all the spending for the wedding. It should be something small and meaningful. I am thinking about one of the following items for him: An engraved bottle of whiskey, engraved lighter or a wallet where I can have a couple lines of our vows engraved on the inside.
Love this perspective! That's what we're doing too! Except I caved and bought him socks to wear and I'll make a note that sounds "in case you get cold feet" LOL. We like to joke around with each other, and I thought the idea was just soooo cute I had to do it. I'm not expecting a gift, so no hard feelings.
My husband had no idea this was a thing until I mentioned it to him. I actually mentioned it for the opposite reason - to make sure he WASN’T doing it! I couldn’t imagine giving us both another thing to do before the wedding. If I really wanted to do it he would have gotten on board, but otherwise his reaction was like those above - “Isn’t the wedding enough?!”
It was actually my FH's idea to exchange gifts. We're always looking for a reason to spoil each other to show our appreciation. So there are a lot of random days and I come home to something small. But we both want to be able to spoil each other on our big day because that's just what we do.
I think it depends on the couple - I've heard of some doing it and some skipping it. I think we're going to splurge on a nicer honeymoon and buy souvenirs from our honeymoon as our "gifts" to each other because we'll remember them more that way.