Wedding Day Duties List

I didn't read through all of the comments but here is my take:

· Someone in charge of photography list and manage photography timeline - I would say a family member, maybe one from each side. This way they know who all of the family members are and can help rally people.

· Someone to help me shop for lunch for the group (someone decisive!) - I'm sure either a parent or friend (BM) wouldn't mind going with you. Or maybe FH can go with you the evening before. Just make an exact list beforehand so no decision making is needed at the time.

· Manage my phone - I plan on having my phone with me or at least nearby, but if you don't want it, I would leave it with a trusted BM or just put it down somewhere in the room and you can get to it if need be.

o Be available for MUA upon arrival - you should probably be there as you are their client. I'm not clear on where else you would be.

o Be available for photographer upon arrival - If you'll still be getting ready, I would just give your photographer either a BM's or mom's phone number, or have them call your phone upon arrival and the trusted person can answer. That person can let them in to come see you.

o Venmo MUA - either you, or whoever has your phone. You may want to just do this when they arrive so you don't have to worry about it after getting ready.

· Ensure that I am hidden from Jacob for photos and heading to ceremony - people will likely pitch in for this, but I would say it's mostly on your photographer to coordinate your locations for pictures so you are kept separate. Just have a plan of who is going where and if everyone follows it, you won't see each other.

· Make sure emergency kit is with us - pack it with your other items the evening before and ask a BM to double-check with you before you leave.

· Setup dinner table upon arrival (bride will provide details) - maybe a couple family members can help with this? If people are wanting tasks this will be a good one to have more than one person help with.

· Ensure rings and marriage license get to Officiant - bridal party members should be able to help with this.

· Someone in charge of photography list and manage photography timeline - You and your photographer.

· Someone to help me shop for lunch for the group (someone decisive!) - You. It's not hard to get lunch. I got breakfast for my girls.

· Manage my phone - You.

o Be available for MUA upon arrival - You. I opened the door and greeted them.

o Be available for photographer upon arrival - You. I opened the door and greeted her.

o Venmo MUA - You. My money, my job.

· Ensure that I am hidden from Jacob for photos and heading to ceremony - You all can do this

· Make sure emergency kit is with us - You or one of the girls can grab it.

· Setup dinner table upon arrival (bride will provide details) DOC

· Ensure rings and marriage license get to Officiant - You or husband.

You are not helpless on your wedding day. You are able to do things, there is a lot of waiting around. You can do most of this. Just because it is on WW site, doesn't mean you have to or should do it.

Hi April, here is my advice and how we did it a little over 3 weeks ago.

Someone in charge of photography list and manage photography timeline I did this with my photographer prior and during the day (no DOC)

· Someone to help me shop for lunch for the group (someone decisive!) Two of my BM's did this for me, they volunteered to pick it up, I had already ordered it & paid.

· Manage my phone I took care of my phone, honestly I only looked at it until my son was at the venue after that no one else needed me.

o Be available for MUA upon arrival I took care of this.

o Be available for photographer upon arrival I was the contact person when they arrived and greeted them.

o Venmo MUA we all paid individually.

· Ensure that I am hidden from Jacob for photos and heading to ceremony - I took care of this myself.

· Make sure emergency kit is with us I made sure I had everything I needed that day.

· Setup dinner table upon arrival (bride will provide details) I did this during set up.

· Ensure rings and marriage license get to Officiant H took care of this.

I think that you and your FH could manage this list easily. I know when you are planning it seems like there is a lot to manage - but your list of things really doesn't seem like it would be difficult. Your BM's will more than likely help out with some of the things but I think you will be ok even if they didn't. Lots of luck on your wedding day!