Wedding Day Advice for Those Getting Married

Yes girl!!! I went in with a similar attitude. And I get the brides who expect perfection, after all we spend months and years planning things. But I walked in telling myself "We've done everything we can do, and planned things as much as possible, but things can and probably will go wrong."
On the other hand, we got pretty lucky. There were only some small snafus with music, something not being displayed during the reception (fixed immediately upon notice to the DOC), and the priest didnt turn on the AC in a timely fashion so the church was kind of warm. If anything else was wrong, it never got back to me.

Yes girl!!! I went in with a similar attitude. And I get the brides who expect perfection, after all we spend months and years planning things. But I walked in telling myself "We've done everything we can do, and planned things as much as possible, but things can and probably will go wrong."
On the other hand, we got pretty lucky. There were only some small snafus with music, something not being displayed during the reception (fixed immediately upon notice to the DOC), and the priest didnt turn on the AC in a timely fashion so the church was kind of warm. If anything else was wrong, it never got back to me.

Yass ! i went into mine after reading so many BAM posts, knowing that it was not going to go 100% smoothly and with that mindset, i just felt so calm. obviously there were things i wish went better but overall i was happy.

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I totally get the amount of emotion and time put into planning, but you are right, at some point you've done everything you possible can. Glad your day went well! We got lucky to. Our DOC was amazingly proficient and organized. The only thing that did go wrong is that our bouquets and boutonnières were delivered to the church rather than the hotel. This delayed our photographer capturing details by 10 minutes but it wasn't a big deal. It mean my portraits were moved to a later time. Also, some group pictures had to get moved to a different location because another group had a large tent up in church's courtyard. Again, not a big deal.

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I'm with you! The one thing I would change - removing a tent from the church's courtyard - was out of my hands.

While I didn't go into it with that mindset it helped that my mom and Aunt told me that something goes wrong on everyone's wedding day. Nothing is perfect. That helps. Like am I going to sit here and complain that I told the coordinator to put ALL the flower petals I had lining the aisles? No. Maybe she didn't even put them out herself and a different worker did. It is what it is. I gotta see what I can do with the leftovers now (they're freeze-dried, maybe I can sell them). But it's important, at least to me, if the venue, staff, or vendors themselves screwed something up to let other brides know in a review. But I do agree the bad things shouldn't fully shape how you feel. I am super type A so if I did everything myself I would've been fine, but that's just not possible to be stretched that thin. Along the years I have learned to be very chill about things and to just let them go. I wrote my reviews, the venue said they appreciate all feedback, and it's done. I can look forward to videos from friends and family and my pictures and think about the good things!

Exactly this!!!! I planned every detail yet things still went wrong. Despite that our day was perfect! I married the perfect person for me and that was all I needed to make everything feel simply mazing.

YEP!

This is what we did - we picked things because they made us happy/reflected us, and then hired people who could fulfill that. We did not create a terribly strict timeline, we relied on the experts to do their job/make decisions, and in the end, nothing went wrong. Were things "perfect"? As much as they could be, with humans!

We relaxed, had fun, and GOT MARRIED, which was the important bit.