Wedding date

If you want your wedding in September I don't see why you wouldn't just go for it. What does it matter that a guest's birthday is around that date? It's about what matters to you.

I've always said you can't plan your wedding based around other people's schedules (this includes birthdays!) Or else you'll never be getting married. If you want a September wedding date, do it.
Granted I have heard of some family being total pains in the butt about a couple picking their birthday or some other event for their wedding date because.it takes attention away from them. Maybe ask your sis if she's cool with it? I wouldn't worry about extended family though.

I don't think having a wedding when it happens to be near someone's b-day is a big deal at all. In fact, my mom's bday is 2 days before our wedding in June. We are going to order cupcakes and have a cookout to celebrate the evening of her bday when we get settled into the AirBNB at our wedding location. I would for sure talk to the bday's affected and see if any of them care but I highly doubt any of them would care unless it's a milestone bday (21, 30, 50, etc) and they have plans already.

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I think it’s really considerate that you’re thinking about family birthdays when picking your date. Personally, I would have no issues attending a wedding on my birthday.

You could always arrange a cake for the person and have all your guests sing happy birthday and celebrate them

You want to consider others, but keep in mind it is your wedding. You should pick the day you want. If it falls on someone's birthday, I am sure they will understand.

This is your wedding and you should pick the date you want. We are getting married on September 12th, 2020. The date is also my FH's uncles' birthday, he totally cool with it and actually super excited. He likes to say that we won't ever forget his birthday because it will be our anniversary too.

You are definitely over thinking. Pick the day that you want.
Go with the first date you picked, if that's what you want for your wedding day.❤

I think you are overthinking it. Pick the date that you want and go for it. It’s not about everyone else. If you start now worrying about what everyone thinks you are going to do this when planning every part of your wedding and then it won’t be YOUR day. Good luck.

You are overthinking it. Go with the 12th.

September 5th is a holiday weekend and I think you'd have less turnout.

I agree with PPs. Choose the date you want! Wedding planning is hard enough without trying to make everyone happy!

So i got married on my best friend's bday, who was also moh at my wedding. she didn't care. i felt bad about it but she said it's fine because that's the date that worked best for my husband's schedule so it didn't make sense for us to push it back or forward in finding another date when this one worked. if it lands on someone's birthday, my advice is to just honor them. for me, we had everyone sing happy birthday to her. and we also got her a cake during our rehearsal dinner the night before

You're not stepping on toes. Some might be happy about the day being on their birthday! This is your big day! It is about you and your FS and what is best for you guys. If they really do get upset then i suppose they don't have to come

Our wedding was the day before MIL's birthday and less than a week after SIL's birthday. I don't think it matters too much.

Pick whatever day works best for you don’t worry about birthdays and whatever else! It was one my my guests birthdays on our wedding day, it is what it is. That guest still came and celebrated with us.

I dont think so! My FFIL's birthday is the 4th and our wedding will be on the 5th. With him playing such an important role in the wedding we asked him if it was okay, but he had no issue with it!

Thank you so much for the advice everyone! We decided to go ahead and do sep 5 even though it’s Labor Day weekend, that might thin out our guest list a bit too lol. We figure anyone who really wants to be there will be. Sorry it took me so long to reply to anyone, I’ve been really busy at work the past few days.