Wedding ceremony speech

If it is something you want to do I think that is very sweet! At my friend's wedding her husband spoke but she did not, and it was lovely!

Also, for a wedding it is vows*. Vowels are letters.

Instead of a speech that he isn’t comfortable reciprocating if you decide to not have homemade vows, maybe write it into a card to give him while getting ready.

If your husband is really going to be uncomfortable don’t do it.


I don’t see anything wrong with you doing one and him not. For my wedding the best man will be giving a speech but we are going to skip the maid of honor speech. We didn’t want to force anyone to do something they weren’t comfortable doing.

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Speeches aren't usually a part of wedding ceremonies, which isn't in itself a problem. But since your future spouse has asked you not to do it, I would respect his wishes. Write your "speech" as a love letter to give him before or after the ceremony. It won't be any less meaningful to him just because you didn't say it in front of witnesses.

It's really only a decision the two of you can make together. If he has expressed that he is uncomfortable and asked you not to do it, you do need to consider his feelings. Perhaps instead you can write you words in a sweet note, or read it to him when you're one-on-one.

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It's very sweet that you wrote a loving speech to share, but if he is worried about "looking dumb" on your wedding day maybe a compromise of sorts might be best. Maybe you can recite your speech to him privately? If you're doing a first look maybe you can say it to him then. Or if you're not doing a first look, then maybe say it to him the night before your wedding as a way to kick off the wedding celebrations? The idea of writing it as a love letter is really sweet too, that way he could keep it forever and even frame it. That way, you can still share your speech but also avoid your FH from feeling bad about not having his own speech to share in front of others.

Could you write it in a card or even say it privately instead? That way he doesn't feel put in the spot or judged by him not saying one?

Maybe your speech would be better received by him as a toast during the reception?

My FH can not speak in front of people. Like at all. We are going to have to really practice the “repeat after me” vows that the preacher does so he can do it. But we are doing a first look and that is where we will exchange personal, emotional vows in a more private setting. I think it’s more special that way

I like the idea of giving your speech at the reception instead. This way is doesn’t feel one sided and as formal like at the ceremony. One minute is perfect. I hate when speeches drone on too long as most people lose interest after a while.

You could incorporate it into your thank you speech for guests and throw that in at the end and it would be very sweet and not weird if he doesn’t do it! It’s almost like a little surprise no one will be expecting!

Could you do it as like a toast during dinner instead? That may seem like a nice surprise touch and might not make your FH feel left out or that he's being judged for not saying one. otherwise I would see if he wants to exchange heartfelt vows beforehand and maybe only get it documented by your photographer or videographer so its a special moment between the two of you and then he doesnt have to deal with being uncomfortable.