Wedding ceremony no reception??

May I ask who/how many people you're involving in the planning process? The more people you involve, the more opinions you invite, unfortunately.

When it comes to the food in particular, I didn't discuss with anyone but my fiance. For the few people I'm giving regular wedding planning updates to (immediate family, some people in the wedding party), I'm telling them--not asking.

Yes, there are a few exceptions, but my FH and I are planning & paying for the entire wedding ourselves, so I really don't feel the need to run anything by anyone else.

View Quoted Comment We are paying for it ourselves. We really don’t have a lot of people in the planning process. I’ve been planning it all on my own. I haven’t asked for anyone‘s opinion. I just keep getting advise that I didn’t ask for.

Unless they're paying, no one else should have any input on the details of your day. They don't even need to know them until they arrive.

View Quoted Comment @Caytlyn Even if someone offered to pay, they still shouldn’t dictate because the day is not about them. It’s about the bride and groom.

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That wasn't the point of my message, and you're right, but that's not always how things work. When people pay thousands of dollars for a party, they want to voice their opinions.

If you’re only 2 months away it’s probably too late to cancel everything. I’m assuming invitations have gone out if people are complaining about the food choices. I’m sorry people are being like that, if it was my wedding I’d just tell people sorry they’re not happy with the options but it’s what my fiancé and I wanted and it is our day after all. And if they don’t want to come because of the food!? By all means let them stay home!

View Quoted Comment @Andrea Well thank you for your comment. Now I’m worried that the day will be ruined because of other people. I’ve been under a lot of stress due to the wedding and other life circumstances and I can’t take people bagging on me anymore.

Whatever you choose for the food is your choice but make sure if ppl are allergic to some food ask or tell them2take a benadryl.. but if you choose to cancel it thats fine also you would probably save money..

If you're having guests at your ceremony, you need to host them after the ceremony with food and drink appropriate to the time of day (i.e., a reception). If you don't like the opinions you're hearing, stop sharing information and perfect the bean dip technique ("Okay, we'll keep that in mind. Hey, have you tried this bean dip? It's fabulous! Blah blah blah bean dip...) and change the subject.

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Nobody should ever take a benadryl and eat food that they're allergic to.

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I didn't say take it2 eat the food meaning take it so incase they are around it they are fine.. I know lots of ppl who do that & are fine

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That very much depends on the person and the allergy. OP shouldn't be giving anyone medical advice on how to manage their food allergies.

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Your rite it depends on the allergy but some do take stuff to prevent them from the reaction

Honestly, I find that people love providing their unwanted advice. It’s your choice to take it or not. You can easily say, “Thank you for your input but we have already made our plans.” I wouldn’t be discussing too much of my details with anyone outside of my trusted support system. I wouldn’t skip out on the reception at all because your reception is a way to thank your guest for celebrating the marriage. The only way that’ll work out is if you don’t invite the guests to the ceremony and only have the ceremony and reception for those that will attend both. I hope it works out for you.

It's your wedding! You plan it how you and your future hubby want it and have the food that you want. If people don't like it they don't have to come

View Quoted Comment @ Brandi thank you.

Ooh whoops, I didn't realize how close you were already to the actual date.

If people are getting their invites and then being judgemental about the reception or whatever, that's on them. People have so many opinions on everything, and weddings seem to bring out even more.

I'd definitely stick to your plan. If someone is nitpicking the food and doesn't want to come, then they can keep their bad energy at home.

View Quoted Comment @prynne thank you!

You've involved too many folks. Plan your wedding. Don't ask or discuss your ideas with others unless they're paying or your stern enough but it seems like your letting pll overwhelm you. You'll regret not having a reception especially if youve got ideas. Girl let that roll of ya engaged shoulders.

Don't let the people being mean get you down! I agree with the others, if someone asks, give them vague details or none at all ("it's a surprise!!"). Who is bringing you down if its okay to ask, immediate family? Bridal party? Guests? No one should be making you feel this way! It is your day, don't forget that!

I also agree it may be a bit late to cancel stuff, and you should host a reception for your guests after the ceremony! Good luck!