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Jana
Super April 2016

Wedding bragging post got me thinking.

Jana, on October 22, 2015 at 1:57 PM Posted in Planning 0 18

Sometimes I want to brag...but I don't. No FB posts (I mean, I put I'm engaged and I said yes to the dress and that was it) it's just crickets over here. I see all these FB acquaintances that have had weddings or are engaged just posting away and I'm like "STFU." I have 3 BMs - my sister who is not married, my childhood friend who is single and not married, and one of my dearest friends who is dating one of my best guy friends and they are not getting married. Both divorced and he does not want to go through the marriage thing again. I think she secretly does (okay not so secretly, she does want to marry him). Soooo, I don't mention wedding stuff hardly ever and when asked I answer quickly and change the subject because I feel it is the right thing to do. But dammit sometimes I want to brag!!!! Not because I got a man to propose or I think my dress is the best or my venue cost a ton. That's not the hard part, but because I am juggling work, raising my son, and on top of all that cont..

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Latest activity by Michelle Thornton , on October 23, 2015 at 8:48 AM
  • Jana
    Super April 2016
    Jana ·
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    Coordinating vendors, deciding on décor, attending cake tastings, managing checklists, designing invites, setting up hair and makeup trials, picking out dresses and tuxes, reserving limos and hotels, choosing flowers for the ceremony and reception, just to name a few, and I am doing a damn good job. That deserves some brag time more than anything so I think we all deserve a pat on our back because I think a lot of us hold it in at home, at work, around our friends and family, but hell brag away on this post!!!

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  • Mrs. P
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    I think this is the perfect place to brag without annoying the crap out of your nearest and dearest!!! The only thing I really feel I have to brag about is that I'm super crafty and I'm really proud of what I've made so far (which isn't much! But at least I've started!)

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  • SwoleMates2016
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    I totally agree! I want to brag about my awesome deal finding and money saving deals! I want to brag about the DIY's I have planned and the fact that I've already lost a few inches to fit in my dress! Planning a wedding is certainly not an easy task, especially when you work full time as well.

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  • KB
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    I know what you mean. I have barely shared anything on social media. I posted that we were engaged and I made a post when my mother started making my dress (but that was more to brag on her). Otherwise I have kept quiet. Partially because I don't want to brag and partially because I don't want all the people I'm not inviting to know all the details.

    I do feel proud though. FH propsed March 1st, we started planning April 1st, he moved away June 14th. I have done everything on my own since then and think I have done a good job. We did a lot before he left and he is always willing to talk, but on the ground it's all me.

    I don't have any children to worry about though. I think you definitely deserve a little brag time! Not having kids myself, I'm always amazed by parents who are able to rock the parenting thing while juggling many other responsibilities.

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
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    I don't think it's bragging. I consider it keeping people updated. I don't post daily about wedding plans on FB, but when I corss a "milestone" off my list, I post it. For example, I posted a picture of my stack of STDs with the caption that they were ready to go out. Honestly, I feel it's a little like including extended family and friends with the planning process. Either that or I'm just an annoying bride-to-be. I'm good either way. Smiley winking

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  • Kelly
    Super June 2016
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    Oh, oh! Can I brag here too?! (Similar to KB, I haven't been posting anything on facebook because we're not really inviting a bunch of friends and I don't want people to think that we're having a big wedding.)

    FH and I got engaged in April and started looking at venues right away. I've taken my time finding vendors, but that's proved to be a good thing because I found some really good deals. Meanwhile, I'm trying to finish writing and defending my dissertation before Christmas. Life's busy, I'm taking the bull by the horns, and I'm proud of what i have been able to accomplish. *self-five*

    And high-five to all you ladies too!

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  • Jana
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    I'm jealous of you DIYers. I don't have a crafty bone in my body. LOL! I do support Etsy though 100%. @KB I agree with you that a lot of my reasons for being so discrete on FB is that I don't want to deal with all the "when is the wedding" and "I can't wait for the wedding" comments from the people that I can't invite. I don't have the heart for it.

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  • Corinne_
    Master September 2016
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    I don't really share much on FB, I shared our engagement and then we shared the engagement pictures. The only time I mentioned the date there was when I said 'I waited 33 years and there's 333 days to go' because I like numbers and stuff.

    Otherwise I use FB for cat and booze pictures and this page for anything wedding related.

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
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    I haven't posted anything about the wedding on Facebook at all. We changed our relationship status when we got engaged and that was it, not even a ring pic. I just don't want to deal with people asking for invitations or being offended if they aren't given one. Too much drama. FH's cousin is engaged and posts about her wedding constantly. It is the most irritating thing. No one else cares! Lol

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  • Samantha
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    I definitely think you should do some bragging. I think there is a respectful way it can be done. I did some FB posting but tried not to be to overbearing about it. I knew some people wanted to hear about it and enjoyed my post so I tried to keep it tactful and not obnoxious.

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  • Soon to be Mrs. HLR!!
    Super October 2015
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    I didn't post anything on Facebook regarding the wedding. The only thing I did was change my relationship status to engaged. I didn't even really like talking about it a lot. If someone asked questions, I would provide the answers and then quickly change the subject. I just wasn't that comfortable talking about it with anyone other than DH.

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  • Ostrich
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    I think there's a difference in posts. When people complain about planning a wedding, complain about everything that has to get done, etc... i roll my eyes HARD. You CHOSE to get married, and is a a fun time that many people wish they were doing. Kind of like how someone who wins the lottery, complains about having to pay tax on it. It's one thing to be excited, and to share the great things happening, and it's another to make it seem like you're super woman juggling a lot of things.

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  • Colleen
    Expert April 2016
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    So I do this website called Swagbucks where I get free money I just stream videos and from time to time answer survives, you also get money back for shopping online. I have saved over $300 this year alone and get amazon gift cards to buy things for my wedding or you can use for paypal. That is bragging rights! If anyone wants to join: www.swagbucks.com/refer/Coldoll520

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  • FutureFireWife13
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    It's good to know that I'm not the only one! My wedding is still what seems like forever away & every time something wedding related in mentioned, I feel like someone is rolling their eyes. Typically I'm not even the one to bring up the wedding subject! I'm asked about it & I still get eye rolls from the peanut gallery.

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  • FinallyMrsT
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    @Jana, I felt exaaactly the same when I was coordinating my entire fucking wedding, while simultaneously researching Kindergarten applications for later this year and dealing with some very serious work emergencies. And I somehow managed not to make DH change his mind about marrying me in the process. Meanwhile, this girl who got married one week after me posted EVERY single step of her wedding planning on FB. On top of all the "don't forget to RSVP for my wedding" posts, she even posted a screenshot of her guest list spreadsheet (including full names and addresses!), and went fishing for compliments about her organizational skills...As if highlighting who isn't invited wasn't bad enough, she actually thought she had done something special -- as though every single bride doesn't have a spreadsheet! I just wanted to yell at her lol

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  • Spidel8
    Super October 2016
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    I love this post! Glad I'm not the only one who hates keeping it all in. Sometimes I find an awesome freaking deal on something for the wedding and I just wanna share bc I'm super excited. I hate feeling like I'm interrupting someone or trying to make the subject all about me and my wedding ( big deal, she's getting married kind of thing). I agree with @FurtureFireWife13 that I feel like someone is rolling their eyes. BTW I got this amazing clutch at Charming Charlie...Originally $72, marked down on clearance and 50% off of that! Paid $17 for it....isn't she beautiful? Go me!


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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
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    Agreed. My brag: Despite coming from a lower income family, not knowing how to be a girl, or being a cheap person, I feel like we managed to pull off a fancy, fun and overall good wedding. I really didn't think I would pull it off. DH was worried at times by my cheapness. But I was surprisingly impressed we pulled that shit off. And did it for a lot less than most people probably thought. Without skimping on anything.

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  • Michelle  Thornton
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    I think you should brag. Your happy in love, working towards a major step in life while doing everything else. This is a exciting and stressful time for you and bragging about the victories it fun. Glad you have this post, and forum to share them!

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