Wedding blues

Ditto. Got engaged October 2017. Didn't start planning until August 2018. Pushed the date back from March 2019 to August 2019. I'm just ready to be married and not have to think about wedding details anymore!

I actually felt like 5 months away from my wedding was where I stopped being excited for a little bit too! With a long engagement it just starts to drag at that point when there STILL isn't much to do. For me, I got excited again when we sent out invitations which we did a little less than 3 months before the wedding

I think there's things that will make you excited again though like milestones you achieve during planning

View Quoted Comment Same! I honestly am just over the wedding and it hasn't even happened yet

View Quoted Comment We have everything paid for except our flowers and that is due to my Mother and our florist but other than that everything is taken care of and we send out invitations in August / September

View Quoted Comment Planning is pretty much over we have everything paid for except flowers but that is due to my Mother and our florist. I won't be doing a bachelorette party now so the only thing I have left to be excited about is my bridal portraits and even that I'm just feeling eh about

I think when it feels so far away its hard to stay consistently excited about it since it feels like it'll never be here! Our engagement was 20 months total and it DRAGGED for 80% of it. We had a January wedding and I really didn't start to get excited until fall hit and we were close enough to start to finalize things. I think its normal to feel up and down about it and be totally over planning. It got to a point where it consumed my every thought and I was so exhausted from thinking about wedding things and annoyed!

View Quoted Comment I am the girl who has had her wedding planned since I was 7 and when Pinterest came it was game over because my ideas came to life so planning was a breeze for me. Now I'm just ready for it to be over and I'm really down about it because I love weddings and I am the last girl to get married on my Dads side so it's kinda a big deal but I just dont really care anymore. I'm hoping after summer i will be excited again.

Same, none of the reality hit me until maybe 5 months ago... and we still have 2-3 more months left. I would easily choose to cancel it if we wouldn’t lose so much money. I love summer but I just want to speed it up, and be done with the wedding. I also hate being the center of attention, don’t know why I didn’t think about any of these things 1.5 years ago. Also have a few people traveling, and I feel guilty about that - I hope the wedding exceeds expectations. And I am too lazy to tone my spaghetti arms.

View Quoted Comment We moved a little over three hours away at the beginning of this year so my FH and I will be the ones who have to drive the farthest for the wedding.

I completely agree. I got engaged July 2017 and set a Sept 2019 date because I just graduated college back in May and a lot of family wanted me to get my degree before getting married since everyone knows we want to jump right into having kids. I completely understand where they were coming from but because of such a long engagement everything is done it just needs to be put into action and because of that I feel like I'm just waiting around now and just want to be married.

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If you're almost done with everything anyway then I would just take a step back from it all until August/September when you send out your invitations! Enjoy your summer and your time with your FH, then get back into it when you send out invitations. After taking a few months off you will probably be more excited again.

View Quoted Comment Same! We just moved from a small town in East Texas to the city of Houston so that was a big change for us and he has the possibility of taking over his uncles oilfield company so kids are not our top priority at the moment but I do want them. I just really want the wedding to be here already because like you everything is (almost) done so I'm going to be waiting 4 almost 5 months with nothing to do

View Quoted Comment I hope so! I live 3 - 4 hours away from my family so I wont be doing a bridal shower and my bachelorette party is cancelled due to everyone not being able to take off or afford to do something so the wedding is literally the one thing I have to look forward to. I just hope I can get out of this mood I'm in about all of it.

I'm over it. I have a busy life though so it's actually holding up some home improvements we have to pay for. I see my house every day so it just feels so long to wait to start my other projects. 🤷
Although I know the time off for the wedding will be good for me.

View Quoted Comment It may sound bad but I'm glad I'm not the only one who is over it before it actually happens. I can't wait for my wedding because I know it will be amazing and so much fun and my FH and I have spent a lot of money on it, but it's the getting there that is a problem for me.

You're definitely not alone! I've seen a similar thread before!

I was feeling a bit over the wedding - especially w/ planning. I realized that I was trying to accommodate all our guests, but was leaving myself miserable. FH & I talked it through & we decided the wedding will be our way, and hopefully guests will enjoy themselves. It’s been a few weeks now & we are actually enjoying wedding planning & each other so much more.

Wow! I was still stuck on the fact that you said $300 for rent. 😮 LOL!!!
But on a serious note, it’s unfortunate that so much gets put into a wedding that it creates such a feeling... when it doesn’t have to. I see too many couples spending more money than they can truly afford and I can’t understand why they’d put themselves in that position as Newlyweds.
FH and I are both 2nd time bride & groom and fully established. Yet, we only set a $20k budget for 60-70 guests. Can we afford more.... of course... but why? And for who?

The times I've felt done with wedding planning have mostly been when we've been strained for money so maybe that's what you've been experiencing as well?