Wedding and no reception 2021 ☹

View Quoted Comment We planned 20 people for the wedding max. He was gonna bring his DJ stuff and set it up so we didnt need music. When we did the math for cupcakes floral food and beverage photo and ceremony and reception location it was 9k.
He said get the real flowers for 400 and get dress i wanted which im paying for so obviously im gonna get what i want their.
He found a package for 400 bucks. Seems like a joke . I told him we can cut cost in places i make centerpieces i will do my own hair and makeup. I will get walmart shoes no one will see any how. Like ive cut and given all i can . I wanted Disney for same cost snd he wanted beach and i said ok when it wasnt ehat i wanted but i figured at the time i had the reception so its compromise. I had the ceremony set for beach by resort walking distance then food and music after we cut a small cake.have our dance.call.it a dayNot.happening . Well if i want.to wait 2 yrs i can have that but what woman wants to wait 2 yrs and he knows i dont want.to wait so.to me.that was a unfair question.


Wearing this for 20 minutes and being done just sucks. Im pissed enough i want to say this was what i was wearing but since we are doing everything your way i see you at the end the aisle in shorts and a shirt and a messy bun. Im so pissed off

It sounds like you are the only one doing any compromising. I would say it’s time for him to make some compromises as well. You guys should meet in the middle. If you’ve already agreed to the beach wedding in Florida, that’s fine. I have seen lots of really beautiful, simple weddings on beaches. But, if having a first dance and a cake cutting is important to you, then girl you deserve that! Get a small wedding cake! Most of those packages on coastal states include a small cutting cake, a dinner and a DJ (and often times the florals, photographer & day of coordinator as well). If I were you, I would start researching all the packages offered down there. There are so many to choose from. I am 100% positive you guys could find a cost effective package that allows both of you to get what you want.

View Quoted Comment This is certainly not how you should feel about your wedding day. Your feelings are justified and you are not wrong here. I’m sure he will come around. If you talk to him about it please keep us posted or give an update if you feel comfortable doing so.

View Quoted Comment Omg ❤️ This dress is beautiful! He’s just sort of crushing your dress right now. The plans were already set. If I were you I’d just tell him too bad and he already agreed and you’re going to continue the wedding planning and you’re wearing this dress! Its beautiful!

My fiancé and I went through something similar when we got engaged, so I know exactly how you feel and I’m so sorry. He wanted to elope and have a really small ceremony, and we had discussed it before getting engaged, but I decided I really just didn’t want to do that because there were too many people and things that I wanted that would have to be sacrificed. It took him a bit to come around, but we had a very serious sit down where I explained how I was feeling and what I really wanted. He actually started agreeing with me, saying he wanted all of those things too and didn’t realize we’d be missing out if we just eloped. When you are ready, gather your thoughts, maybe even make a list of the things you’d both be missing out on and bring it to him and tell him this is why I want this. You can’t be the only one compromising, he needs to do some too!!! And put a hold on the whole buying new toys for a bit. We decided to plan our wedding 2 years out from our engagement (we got engaged last year, getting married next year) and financially it’s not really that bad on us, we are managing and have barely used credit cards. I hope this all works out for you, you should be excited to celebrate and not feeling how you do ❤️.

Aww I’m sorry, it seems like he’s controlling things more rather than compromising.

I am sorry this is happening to you. I agree with everyone that you and your FH need to have a heart to heart. I feel you guys need to compromise on other things besides the wedding. I hear you have children that are older and maybe getting their opinion on what they wish for you and your FH special day, this may help your FH come to an agreement on how to plan for that day. I hope it works out and that you can have a wedding that can mean a lot to you all.

Also even a courthouse wedding can be made beautifully, you can have a dinner many restaurants have a event room where you can have cake and maybe even bring a small speaker and play your own music and still have the first dance if it comes down to it. This is my plan B in case my wedding doesn't happen due to finance/timing/life.

View Quoted Comment Thank you but im so upset i dont want to even wear it now. I'm going tomorrow by myself to find something to wear. That dress was supposed to be for what i thought we would have for a wedding.
All it is now is a reminder what i wont have. I wanted that to dance with him in. I had that embeded in my head it was gonna wow him when he first saw me and our first dance.
I know we will talk about this but im to upset to talk rationally and clearly. I don't want to be the psycho bride. My friends told me i should wear the dress that i deserve it but i dont feel that way anymore. They told me i need to put that on and do my hair. I just dont see it happening. I had this whst i saw as a romantic beautiful wedding flowers and candles and lanterns and elegant. I can't really say to bad i cant pay the entire thing myself and as much as he isnt being fair it isnt going to help to be that way back.i get what you mean though. He is on his jetski and fixing our boat tonight. Maybe he will talk to his dad and step mom about itand he will see its not fair

View Quoted Comment ❤️ well it sounds like you have a lot of people who love you and who are on your side. Are you close to his parents at all? I know you’re upset and I’m upset for you too but maybe you should try talking to his parents. IMO he should work on his boat later and work on fixing this issue with you.

View Quoted Comment 15 to 20 people i told him id do my own hair get walmart sandals do my makeup and my own nails and toes.
Id get inexpensive flowers and get a cake at grocery store.
He wasn't having it obviously since it made no difference.... however he told me get a wedding planner for 1k to help plan the wedding. Why would i need a planner their is no planning. They set a arch at beach and chairs if u have them thru the company. He told me get our 800 photographer. Why for a 20 minute event and they supply photos in the package. Told me get my 400 flowers why ? I dont get what for? Their is no cake their is no first dance their is nothing special to take extra pictures of with no reception. So he was ok to spend 2200 on 3 things but cant have a reception. Plus he was saying oh 8k isnt bad 10k isnt bad. He doesnt like telling me no but he decides after im so excited to tell me no. I feel at this point like im not worthy of any of what i want for this wedding. He crushed my dress and what my dream was. So i decided im gonna just show up . I have a appt tomorrow for a new dress. Idk i will find one since i need to order it soon for june. I mayend up with the original dress. Otherwise im checking into what i found at Dillards. He wants me in my orginal dress but why it doesn't go with what we are doing now.
Less then 200 dollars and i can wear flipflops

View Quoted Comment Not super close but we get along well. He knows i didnt want to talk about it last night . Im thinking he will approach the topic tomorrow or next week