Wedding After party? Do or Don't?

Hahahahaha Rebecca- We are used to it- Whenever we go out with his cousins we always get harassed whether we actually do it or not! We don't care! We feed into it and play along haha. And Honeymoon S.- if we do decided to do an after party- it would be a pay your own way type thing. I have done VIP before at both clubs and for the most part you just have to buy a bottle- that's only like $100-$150- and sometimes they have specials that give you a special rate on the room. For the most part- whoever would come out with us would always split the cost of the VIP so it's not like it'll cost us much more $$.

Katebonnykate- you are right. FH and I def. have a lot to think about- I liked the earlier idea that we can see what we are gonna do the night of. If we feel up to going out- then tell everyone- if not- then we go to the room and they can party on their own!

Our reception ends at 10.whoever wants to can go to the hotel bar til whenever, FH and I will go, I expect we'll be in our room by 12..honestly, if your FH is insistent on not having one, I wouldn't, it's his night also. Maybe something impromptu will form..that gives the flexibility that if you guys are too tired and just want to go spend some alone time together, you won't be pressured.

I was thinking about an after party too... it just never materialized, and I didn't miss it.

That'll probably be the case with us too Katebonnykate. If anything does come up on the day of- that'll probably be our best bet.

I agree with Andrene P., save the party for another time. We are having the ceremony and reception, and my mom has been nice enough to secure us a honeymoon suite the night of the wedding. After we get back from our honeymoon, other family and friends want to throw us another party to celebrate some more!! Enjoy your ceremony, and reception, and then your private party that night.

If you think about having to get up at the butt crack of dawn to start hair and make up and all the things you have to do for the wedding then have a full day of events and visiting and what not I can almost guarantee your gonna be exhausted and not want to go out. My sisters reception ended at 10 and she was ready to go. she wanted some alone time with her hubby and then pass out!!!

We did an after party, with a break between the wedding and the party. By the time the party started, I was exhausted! Between last minute day of stuff for the wedding, the wedding itself, and all that- it was a long day!

And that's a long enough reception!

I'd recommend a brunch the mext morning or something the next weekend instead. And the fact that your FH doesn't want to do it should be reason enough to nix the idea.

I thought we were going to end up partying into the night. I wanted a big celebration with my family. At 11:30, I was SO ready to go back to our hotel! The day was just tiring and I wasn't as busy as I've heard most brides say they were.

You ladies are probably right- Like I said- my luck- the day of I'll wanna go back to the hotel and he will get all tipsy and be like BAAAABBBBBBEEEEEEE we gotta go out with the boys! ("The Boys" are our normal group consisting of his cousins and 2 closest friends- they are our crew!) I'll be draggin him back to the room! lol

Meghan- It's not that he doesn't want to do it at all! A part of him wants to and a part of him doesn't- kinda like me! We can't decide!

Although an after party sounds fun, most likely you are going to be exhausted afterwards anyways. Typically that night is for you and your new husband to spend together. Many guests will have attended both of the ceremony and the reception, thereforece, they would have been there the five hours as well. A lot of them may become tired as well by the end.

I just had a wedding on the 20th where the bride and groom were coming out to the same hotel all their family and friends were staying afterwards. They decided to come back and close the hotel bar down. I think that is an okay idea since they will still have their time together afterwards.

Sounds like you like to have a good time. Just from experience, the exhaustion may be understated the day of. If you think about it, the reception goest from 6:30-11:30. However, you will be up very early running around, getting ready, taking pictures, not eating much, so you will have a full day tacked on before the reception is over.

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